What to do?
I am sitting here today just doing my own thing on Facebook and say what the heck go check out see what the kids are doing on theirs. Seeing as we try to keep an eye on our kids online like good parents should do. I go log into my SD15's account and something just don't seem right. So I check into some of the "friends" that have commented on her post, and what do I find she has gone and set up a new account that her father had no ideal about. Well surprise surprise NOT!!! So I just send him a message letting him know what I have found and leave it on his computer to see for himself. NO big surprise that he says nothing to her. I am sure his excuse would be the same as always so I don't say anything else to him. Why it does no good. But in reading her post on the "new" account I see where it is my fault that she got in trouble and is grounded and to blame me, along with the fact she hates her hair cut; which we made her do because she would not keep it brushed. and all the blah blah blah's that teenagers do.
Anyways back to my what to do. I am so ready to get on the account that I took the time to set up and make as safe as I could and just let everyone know the truths. Let every one know that she has a new account and that she is old enough to do what ever she wants and that account will be gone in 24 hours and they need to friend her on the new account. Along with all the info that she has been bitching about me for. Like she will not take a shower with out her daddy telling her to do it. She will not brush her teeth unless told to do so. That she had to get her hair cut because she could never remember to brush it. That I would get onto her because she is too old to be acting like this. You know all the reasons that drive a step parent crazy. Just let ever one know why I am the way that I am and if they want to judge me then judge me on the fact I am tried of being the nasty one the mean one and that she is just such a sweet little angel. That if I am going to be the big bad step mom might as well earn my title.
So should I tell all to everyone on her account treat her the way she has treated me over the last three years with no respect?
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I know for a fact it would
I know for a fact it would feel DAMN GOOD to do all that at first but if you are anything like me you will regret it after you do it, not because it will make the kid look bad because that would be funny as hell. but you as a human will feel bad for doing it and then again the child will win because you now have the guilt of doing something although deserving of the little angel but just remember you can never take it back. Just my 2 cents!
I keep going back and forth
I keep going back and forth do I let her know I know about it. DO I just lay it all out. I don't know if I would feel guilty thought. }:) I mean the hell she has put me though. I have never felt this way towards anyone. I had a big falling out with what was my best friend in 9th grade and did not have this "hate" towards her like I do to SD. LOL and you are so right it would feel DAMN GOOD!! just to let her know I won this round. Guess I will sit on it for a day or two. Thanks
Do what I do.... Copy and
Do what I do.... Copy and paste.... Do not tell her or let her know you know anything... let her continue to be stupid.... she will hang her self all on her own... Then when she comes crying to you about something or wants you for something, simply look at her and say... No, I don't think so. She will wonder what just happened... then when she is sick of the condescending responses she receives, then throw all the copied and pasted information up to her and simply look at her and say "This is who YOU think I am...." "Find your own resources...."
Love that ideal. Love it love
Love that ideal. Love it love it love it. Thank you, I did a screen shot of proof that her New Facebook account is her.. LOL she so don't know how to do things. Oh wait she is like her dad he tried to have other accounts on one site and I found most of them. But thanks so much.
Here's a quick tip for you...
Here's a quick tip for you... (an easier way to document Facebook)
Go to http://www.cutepdf.com/ and download the free PDF software. This will place an option to "print to PDF" in the print menu of just about anything, including internet browsers.
Go to Facebook, and make sure that everything you want documented is visible. (multiple comments, for example) Print to PDF - it will give you multiple pages, (BM's FB wall is currently 50 pages) complete with pictures, with no sizing issues or having the image be a .jpg or pasting multiple screen shots into Paint or slides, or whatever.
Documenting BM (and anybody else I have access to) became a LOT easier once I figured this out!
That is great, thank you
That is great, thank you MCMilGal.
That is the thing. She is
That is the thing. She is with us 24/7 her BM live in another country. They don't use the computer her BM bought her sister (and her but she does not have it) a tablet and she is using her sister to get on the internet. We have our computer password protected but her sister tablet is password protected by them not us. DH is just letting them get away with all this crap. Don't know if it is because he is really bad sick and can't take off work or he don't want to say anything this close to Christmas. IDK he just gets on my last never they way he lets them do what ever they want. It will bit him in the butt one day I am sure and that is the day I tell him me or her if she is old enough to get herself in that kind of trouble then she can get herself out of it or go live with her mother. Oh and they are not on our internet they are using an unsecure wireless one. Our is secure and I will not let DH set there stuff up on our internet since BM does not want to help pay for anything for them I am not going to pay for her to have them contacting her when ever they want. We have told BM if you want them to have access to internet anytime to talk with you send $20 a month to help pay for it. Have asked her to send some money or gift cards to buy clothes as well and nothing. Go figure that.
That's the problem, your DH
That's the problem, your DH isn't backing you. You just end up looking like the bad guy then.
I wouldn't say a word. that
I wouldn't say a word. that is your window into seeing the horrors that could be coming in the future so you can prepare.
If DH doesn't care, then why try so hard?
IMHO it just makes you look like you are trying to start drama too. There's no point in telling everyone about it. The people who she wants to know already do, the people who don't are the ones she's hiding from. It will feel good, but it will look to DH again like you are picking on her. Why put yourself in that position, right? Believe me, she will hang herself.
That is why I am just going
That is why I am just going to keep track of what all is being said about me and save it that way when I say no I am not doing this or that I have my reasons ready. I am not going to say anything else I will let it all blow up on her and DH. I have 2 years and 4 months till she is 18 and then out the house she goes. She shows no respect for me or appreciation for anything I have tryed to do so why should I show her any thing.
Yep, now that sounds like a
Yep, now that sounds like a good plan. }:) }:) }:)