Self Absorbed Guilty Daddies -- Anatomy of a Fight
Usually GG (biodad I live with for eight LOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGG years) talks about work. This one's a stupid a-hole, that one is a f'n douche, etc. etc. You get the picture. So I start to talk about work (big mistake). I start talking about how we have a twenty something that actually knows his stuff and does fine work, is very helpful, which is rare for generation me (no offense to anyone on this board who is a mature dedicated SM and in their twenties). I can see GG's face starting to twist into rage; then I make the biggest mistake of all b/c I report that his young children (two boys ages 5 and 3) are doing well in school and pre school.
BOOM!!!!
Of course he took this as a DIRECT attack on his kids who are failing school and continue to do so every year for the past 8 years, barely squeaking by at the last minute because the BM (Behemoth) talks to the administrators and teachers (her hometown contemporaries) to have them passed up to the next grade.
After an hour of purple faced, sloppy drunk diatribe and stating that MY house is actually HIS, he comes to bed and demands rough sex, then tries to act as though nothing happened the next morning. He tries to "apologize for yelling" and I say "that's just you being you; I"m more disgusted that I can't even express any opinions or talk about work without you taking offense; you get to say and do what you want to under this roof, whereas I'm supposed to censor myself."
Of course he denied all that. His company's christmas party is tonight. He says "You don't have to go!" blah blah
I will go to show my appreciation to HIS boss for giving me gasoline for my car (perk instead of wages to keep the Behemoth at bay) etc.
What the hell is with these egotistical, bold as brass, yet "fragile" insecure "men?"
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Auteur, you own the house,
Auteur, you own the house, you support GG, he couldn't make it financially without you - remind me why you don't put his stuff on the porch and change the locks?
Really, you deserve better.
Why do you stay with this
Why do you stay with this man? He doesn't respect you and you take your frustrations out on his kids instead of directing it at the person you SHOULD be directing it it. Put his stuff on the lawn and change your locks. You life will be so much happier and less stressful without these people in it.
Trying to work on this relationship is like putting a bandaid on an amputation.
He would burn down my house
He would burn down my house and kill me before 911 picked up the phone. I am dead serious in that. That is why I am "faking it till I make it"
Eventually, he'll be off on another woman. It's only a matter of time. I've also offered, since the house is uber high maintenance, i.e. no furnace, just two woodstoves on a swamp; a contractor's nightmare basically, that he ask his boss to buy me out. That is my ace in a hole.
EXACTLY!!
EXACTLY!!
Yes. Mine seems to get into
Yes. Mine seems to get into moods like this. All of a sudden everything is about how I'm against his daughter.
AMEN!!!! I couldn't agree
AMEN!!!! I couldn't agree with your comment more..
I lived with my late DH like
I lived with my late DH like that for 7 years, he sobered up for 14 years but still was emotionally abusive and mean...never physically though.
I understand the fear your fear of leaving b/c of what he would do to you or your house. Believe me Karma will kick in and you will be free of his nasty ass.
Hang in there!
I never heard of a dry drunk.
I never heard of a dry drunk. My late DH was jealous and the house mood depended on his mood.
Worried what he would be pissed about when he got home from work, questioning on whose phone number was on the caller id.
DH didn't die a slow death but I couldn't believe how fucking free I felt after he passed away from cancer.
While some of the shit in my life isn't great, I would never live with a man like that again for more than the time it took me to
Until I can get myself free
Until I can get myself free of this house, GG will "come with the territory"
And I refuse to take another financial bath due to a man by walking away from the mortgage.
I have about two more years
I have about two more years until VD's SHTF so that's my time scheme. I didn't even get a chance to do much validating. I agreed with him and he still went off. The fact that he was drunk didn't help whatsoever.
This morning when he had sobered up, I didn't do any validation; I just wasn't in the mood. Back to the drawing board.
Demanded rough sex? That's
Demanded rough sex? That's marital rape btw...I've experienced it. What a dick...I hate that man for you Auteur, I really do...sending you a big hug!!
Put him on the curb like you
Put him on the curb like you would any trash, he's not bringing anything to the relationship but grief, you deserve way better, Make sure he makes it to the trash too and not the recycle bin.
Such a jerk...heaven forbid
Such a jerk...heaven forbid you speak of a child who is not a heathen. Would he get pissed off at ANYONE who spoke highly of a child or just you?
Funny, my friend's daughter who just turned 12 has been pestering her to get her babysitting card, because "she wants a job and money" it's pretty funny, because the kid really wants for nothing, BUT she has been brought up with values and knows that money is earned and doesn't EXPECT that everything will be handed to her. I told my DH about it and thankfully, he owns up to his kids being losers. Right now he is a hairs breadth away from writing them off completely. Why does GG still hold on to this ridiculous notion that his children hung the moon??? When was the last time that they even made an attempt to talk to him or see him???
GG's kids have no chores and
GG's kids have no chores and just get allowances for breathing. VD (SD13) posted that she has money and wants to buy her FB friends christmas gifts but she doesn't know what to get them. :sick:
And WORK for money? That's a dirty word over at the Behemoth's!!