Does anyone else get all fired up about posting some crazy new BM story, but then just lose steam because there are so many CRAZY details that the thought of putting it together in a post becomes daunting? NPD BMs are so hard to chronicle. They are also hard to document, because of the manic, erratic nature of their sickness.

So, nutshell: I took all four kids ice skating last week. My kids' BF went as well so there were two adults to supervise four kids. SS7 took a fall and hit his head. I monitored for concussion symptoms. He showed none until we arrived home, about 1.5 hours later, when he vomited in the driveway. I had of course been in constant contact with DH. I took him immediately to the ER, and DH was in charge of contacting BM. He texted her, as there is currently a court order that there are no phone calls and that they must text in emergencies. BM has said repeatedly that she wants no contact with me as it is "...too stressful and upsetting...." (because I'm, like, SANE)so the way I see it, my job is to report to DH and he can then deal with the woman he procreated with. Diagnosed mild concussion, no CT ordered, monitor him, if he acts strange or throws up again, bring him immediately back in, no activity for a week, etc...

We got home and SS threw up again. His dad was home by that time so back they went. BM was calling and calling him, in the ER where there are signs everywhere reading "Do not use your cell phone"; oh, plus he was TALKING TO THE DOCTOR and wanted to pay attention so he could do something crazy like care for his son. He called her immediately when the doctor left and they were awaiting discharge. SS spoke to her, DH spoke to her and was surprised at the sanity of the conversation they had.

Don't worry! Your dealings with BMs must have your spider senses tingling, because you *know* that's not all:

When she picked SSs up yesterday, we gave her labeled copies of ER paperwork. (SSs are covered thru her medical insurance, and she and DH both pay for their portions.)SSs were going to school from her house this am, so I had noted that their school nurse may need the original forms in order to write PE/recess excuses. (Luckily I made copies!) I told SS that we were giving his mom the papers, and that he would either bring the note in his folder and give it to his teacher to give to the nurse, or that his mom would drop it at the office. We told BM the same thing in writing and in an e-mail he sent to her.

So this morning DH got a text in response to the e-mail telling him that as "we" (she never ever includes me unless it serves her spiteful purpose- otherwise it's "I'm not dealing with 'we'- I am dealing with you, the boys' father") did not include her in the emergency, "we" could follow up. Meaning that she did not intend to give the school the paperwork excusing SS from PE/recess. In short, meaning that her spite is stronger than her concern for her child's health. Further, she told DH via text that SS told her that DH said "we'd take care of it".

At first I was annoyed that she would choose to believe what a seven-year-old told her over what DH told her. DH and I decided to call the school nurse to see if the form had been turned in. Nurse replied that it had not, and when she called SS down to ask him/check him, he told her that DH and I told him that his mom should be giving her the form but that she told him (!!!)that Daddy needed to do it. So I guess it's good that she has shown her crazy to yet another person. She lied to DH about the whole thing so that she could play her game! And SS actually got it partially right- I need to give him credit for listening! Of course the kid is NOT happy about being out of activity for a week...poor thing....but he is otherwise fine, thank goodness.

I sighed, asked the nurse if it was ok if DH faxed her a copy of the original ER sheet rather than supplying the original, and thanked her for putting SS's health first.

Then of course there was a HUGE e-mail, filled with inaccuracies and lies, and she had the nerve to demand that we give her the original ER paperwork. Is she really going to pretend that we didn't give it to her? How is that going to make her feel better? How does she look in the mirror, knowing that she is compromising SS's health by refusing to BE A MOTHER and make the health of his brain a priority? My mind just cannot fathom the crazy!!! AND, she is going to deny coverage on her insurance because she was not phoned about where he should have been taken. So with that logic, if the kid was (Gods forbid) lying in a pool of blood, unconscious, she would need to be phoned to give her permission, rather than seeking immediate medical attention?

In addition, I must admit that I have fleeting thoughts of not ever taking the kids to do things without DH....she is way nuttier than I have ever given her credit for.