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How old is the SD?

Why can't she just give her a granola bar or one of those drinkable yogurts...The kid has to have something...Pathetic.

Wow, then definately NOT cool...I was gonna say if she's older then she can certainly learn to get her own bkfst at home.

But honestly-at 7 is NOT to young for her to learn how to pour a bowl of cereal and milk before goign to school. It's sucky that this is happening but perhaps you guys can teach her how so when she's at moms at least she's having something before school, kwim?

My skids (10 and 12) NEVER eat breakfast at BM's.

BUT, they have told us numerous reasons for this:

"we don't have enough time." (to which DH says, well maybe BM should get up a little earlier)

Then, "we get up at "this time", and we don't leave till "this time." (which would give them PLENTY of time to get their own bowls of cereal)

"sometimes we stop at "whatever store" and get a donut."

"we're not really that hungry in the morning" (they eat EVERY morning they're with us)

We quit asking. They protect BM, and defend her. They ARE perfectly capable of getting their own cereal, and if there's nothing to eat - they would never tell us.

It is appalling. BM here gets the kids for two Monday evenings (after school until 8pm) for dinner visitation. She's been known not to feed them dinner. WTF is wrong with these people?

Ok, I have to admit.........I gave up the fight to make sure my kids eat breakfast in the morning. I buy pop tarts and granola bars and have cereal on hand. If they eat good, if not, they suffer the consequences - being hungry.

They drag their feet and waste so much time in the morning. I used to allow it to stress me out and I ended up leaving the house everyday misserable so I let it go.

I think the problem in your situation is not so much that the child is not getting breakfast but more that she is not respecting the rules. YOU HAVE TO BE IN CLASS BY THIS TIME. Period, no exceptions. If you miss breakfast at home then you skip it. I do agree that she's old enought to find a solution that allows her to squeeze some kind of breakfast in her morning.

I've often put a stash of breakfast bars in my kids bookbags for between sports practice, after school snacks, quick morning on the go breakfast.

Sounds to me like you need to give her the tools to allow her to correct it herself and hold her to some expectations. Being late to class every day is not acceptable.

OMG....it takes maybe TWO times maybe of teaching her HOW to make a bowl of cereal. Have dad talk to the mom and say-look i know mornign can be crazy (believe me most NCP have no idea how it is school mornings lol)....so we taught her to get a bowl of cereal on her own. Maybe you can help her layout most of it the night before? She can't be late to school like she's doing.

OH and btw-if my kids didn't get up in time to eat or dragged their feet-they knew they couldn't go to cafeteria to eat bkfst and had to go hungry. So you have to insist on that w/SD and talk to cafeteria ladies if necessary. perhaps a few times hungry will get her motivated to eat before she leaves. She's not to young to teach her responsibility, consequences and life skills.

My kids were younger then her...I taught them how to pour it, find milk, etc..then on weekends i told them to let me sleep in...the night before i left cereal, spoon bowl and they knew where the milk was-they learned early, had a bowl of cereal and watched cartoons. NOTHING wrong w/giving her skills-why do you think she'll spend all elementary starvng and no skills sticking? that just seems overly dramatic honestly.

YEs, be careful about this-kids to lie about this. I'm thinkin the commute may have more to do with it then not eating. Honestly you're saying she can't eat something in the car for a 45 min ride and are you sure mom isn't making sure she eats???

I'd talk to the teachers and the mom....or are you saying your dh can't even ask her one simple question. Is she in private school? Why a 45 min commute?

I guess I am confused. Is she eating bfast at school and that is what is making her late? At my kids school bfast ends at 8:00am (or whatever time) and that's that-kids arent allowed to lollygag around in the cafeteria for another 20 minutes after the bell rings? So I guess I am not understanding how she is late. Would they even serve her breakfast if she was that late arriving at school? And typically what they serve does not take 20 minutes to eat?

Sorry I just dont get it. My kids all knew by that age how to fix a bowl of cereal, grab a granola bar, whatever. I admit it-I dont do bfast. I am a working mom who has spent the majority of the kids lives being the only parent at home in the am's. It was too much for me to think of getting 4 kids a nice breakfast, ready for school, and me off to work-so they all knew at a young age how to prepare some readily available things. My kiddos are older now-I dont force them to eat breakfast but they always have the option and available food.

Does bm not have enough food at her home? No income?

I really think you have to talk to bm on this one. Kids manipulate so much sometimes not even on purpose. I just find it hard to believe that there is absolutely NO food in the house for this child to eat. If that is the case surely she would qualify for a free breakfast at school? I used to tell my kids they were not allowed to eat breakfast at school too. I can only imagine if some well meaning individual heard that and then asked them if they ate breakfast at home and then they said no. would they think I was refusing to feed my child? I didnt allow my kids bfast at school because we always had available items at home. I always woke them up on time to eat a bfast. If they didnt eat it was because they didnt want to. If they didnt want to-obviously they werent hungry. Some people are not bfast eaters. Personally, I am-so I have spent years setting the example for them to take a few minutes in the morning and have a bite to eat-but still I'm not going to force feed anyone.