Heres a quick version of the backstory. Met SO, preggo a few months later (oops, antibiotics). He has just gotten out of relationship with his ex who literally up and left one day took his 2 children out of the state and no way to be contacted. FF 18 months later, she comes back in the picture. SO DOES NOT tell her about me or our baby and pretty much bends to her every whim, thus her nickname golden uterus. Skids had first visit weekend before last, their next weekend visit starts tomorrow morning. He also would conveniently always talk to her away from me. I have never once been present while he talked to his kids and GU on the phone. He knows this bothers me beyond belief.
Last night, I'm watching SD10 who we have full time. She says to me, "I can't wait to see GU tomorrow. I miss her. Me and dad talked to her today." I ignore it, because if I acknowledge her it could get much worse. I do think SO and I need to have a little chat. Since he claims he isn't hiding anything from me. So I tell him SD10 told me something interesting. He freaks out at me trying to make it seem that its my fault for being upset. I'm being stupid. We again get into the fact that not only does he hide stuff from me he hides me from her. We go sound and around for awhile. And FINALLY he gets to the point. He is terrified of her. She up and took his kids for nothing and now he is so scared of pissing her off. My response, we need to go to CS and make changes to include visitation with kids that half his paycheck a month goes to and GU can't do/say shit about it. He also then goes on to say that he should have MADE an opportunity to tell her about me. But he knows where he's at so sometimes he forgets to look at my side of the coin. And he says he WILL tell her this weekend.
Today, his car is yet again broken so of course he is driving mine. He then INFORMS me that tomorrow he is going to have to drive 2 hours one way to go get skids. Which is halfway so whatever, but, with my car, without checking with me that its ok. I sat there silent. He then said he'd be sending SD10 to her moms over night. And he thinks it would be best for me to go with him. That is if I want you go. Ha, now SD10 won't be going to pick ups. I had told him last time taking her was a bad idea. I tried to stay calm and not get over excited until it happens, but I really think I got through to him!! I think he's starting to get it. Its taken many many many fights. But I think hes actually starting to see and realize just a little of how much I put up with from him .