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Newstep's picture

Are any of you as sick to death of hearing how BM did things??? Or how the perfect little family unit did everything before you came along??? If I have to hear "My mom used to" or "Dad remember how mom did" it will drive me insane. I know for a fact most of these stories are just figments of SD's mind or that she has embellished to make better. I have traditions that I have with my kids that I have carried over to SD. Part of her loves it and the other I can tell has to make her BM one-up me. I will ask BF did BM ever do this or that. I always get the WTF look from him followed by a Hell No. I know the truth must be somewhere in the middle but good lord I am sick of it.

She brings stuff up constantly and refers back to times like she vividly remembers the occasion. Only most of the time it happened before she was born or was too young to remember. BF corrects her then she argues her point. Makes me sick. She was always like this to an extent but she seems to have amped it up lately.

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ThatGirl's picture

My response when skid tell me how BM would do it? I say, "Good for her, she can keep doing it that way." Or, "Maybe you can do that with her next time you're there."

smileygirl's picture

I understand completly. It drives me up the wall and it's almost always a lie. Recently, DH asked SS if he would like to re-decorate his room as he's moving in with us full time and he said "no, I have a nice room at mommy's house". Annoying, mostly because I know he doesn't even have a room at "mommy's house" much less a nice one. They live in a 1 bedroom tailer with no floors.

natural7680's picture

My oldest SD(12) pulled this about 6 months ago. For health reasons I switched to a mainly plant based diet and HUbby did too. SO, we decided when the SKids are here, they eat what we eat. No red meat or chicken comes into the hosue(pizza is okay). The oldest SD said they eat veggies at BM's house all the time-my reponse: Well that should make it easier for u to eat it here. later on, the yougest SD(7) was whining and throwing tantrums saying she never has to eat veggies at her "real mom's" house. when I yelled at her, hubby asked me about it. I explained and he said the oldest SD was prob'ly lying. He confronted her in front of me & SHE WAS LYING! I was shocked as to why she would make that up. Hubby said she wanted BM to look good in my eyes. (crazy) I had to apologize to the youngest SD b/c she's not used to eating veggies and I thought SHE was lying. but i told her she will eat what everyone else is eating so get used to it. We eat REAL food here. Barely any processed food-and thats how it is.

Newstep's picture

I am not alone then. Goodness it is more than I can handle, especially because I know its all made up!! Thatgirl I love your response!! I use the "you can do it that way when you get home then" All.The.Time!!!!

I think that she knows it bothers me so she does it even more like a dig to get to me. I need to blow it off like nothing to take away that little bit of power she has. I can't believe how I let this child get to me sometimes!!!

the_stepmonster's picture

I HATE this. SD9 does this all the time. Most of the time I try to ignore but sometimes it gets on my last nerve. The worst is when DH acts like he doesn't hear her. Um, hello! We are at the dinner table and she is talking nonstop about how her mother's mashed potatoes/steak/fill in the blank is better. Oh SD. As if we don't know that witch cooks nothing but hot pockets in the microwave. When it gets to me I kick DH under the table. When that doesn't work I look her straight in the eye and say "That's enough."

ThatGirl's picture

Why don't we call your mother right now and see what she's having for dinner. Maybe she'll come get you!

the_stepmonster's picture

Love!!!

amhwood2011's picture

:sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick:

Yep that sums it up. DSO can tell when it gets too much and is able to calm SS6 down. SS8 is fine What I don't understand is how on earth my kids don't do this at their dads, nor do they do it to me when they come back from their dads...(We have had this discussion we can communicate like that )...SS's BM is ingratiated to every aspect of EVERYTHING and I just want to SCREAM!!!!!

B22S22's picture

My SK's do this... if we're out to eat, "remember Dad, when you and Mom used to bring us to this restaurant?"

Or, "Dad, remember the time mom cooked steaks for everyone when we lived in that house on X street?"

They're 16 now, DH and BM divorced when they were freaking TWO YEARS OLD, and the house was sold immediately.

We can't go ANYWHERE in this town without having to reminisce (queue sappy music).

I know it's all a bunch of bullpuckey, but annoying. I agree, my kids don't sit around and bring up their dad at every opportune moment.

imjustthemaid's picture

My SD15 (lives with us, we have full custody) used to talk about her mother ALL the time.

There are certain foods I will not cook because "my mother makes this the best" and so sick of hearing it.

I can't drive down certain streets because "Daddy bought me and my mom a house here and he never bought one for you"

Cant drive past a church, any church, because thats where daddy married my mom

It all came to an end one day when DH screamed and banned her from talking about her and made it clear her mother is a loser, keeps having more kids to stay on welfare, has never so much bought you an ice cream cone and dropped you off one day and never came back for you.

He told her if shes gonna keep glorifying her mother then she can go live there.

We don't hear her name anymore in my house Smile