Did I say the wrong thing? Sorry so long, but you need to know the whole story
Ok me and DH had a slight argument this morning over nothing if you ask me, but this is how it went down....
Ok a long time ago me and DH made a deal, the deal was I would do the inside of the house, and he would do the outside.
Well...I always find myself cooking, and cleaning, and washing clothes...now I am not gonna lie, Dh does help sometime with washing, and HIS form of cleaning (moving things out of sight, and hiding them under or in somthing that can not be seen!) While the outside goes to hell in a handbasket! Now I purchased home before DH and I got together and I took great care of the yard myself! My grass was always green, cut and edged up.
Well when I got married, and we made this deal, i no longer did the yard...thinking that I had a man to do it....Well my (celebrity) dh says I really dont like doing yards, because my dad made me do it all the time when I was growing up. So when ever he DOES got out there, he just pushes the lawnmower over the yard and thats it!!! No fertilizer, no watering, no edging, no raking to remove dead grass...NOTHING!
SO last weekend I was in the yard starting my new garden, and noticed that the rest of the yard looked like crap. So i started edging, raking, and cutting first... Then dh runs out the house saying "what are you doing"?
You are suppose to be gardening.. Now I did not do this to upset him, I was just tired of my yard lookin like crap! Since we are in texas, he used the drought as an excuse not to water the grass. BUT he forget he did not water the grass before the drought either!
Any way I also had a dog a nice black lab... He says this morning you go out there and collect the dog poo and I will do the yard! Now honestly I was doing this anyway before dh moved in, every weekend I would go out into the back yard and get all the poo up to keep the yard nice. But then I had two back to back pregnancies/c-sections and slacked up on doing it. And he did not pick up the slack he would just mow the grass without picking it up. So after he said that I said "didnt you come into this marraige with two responsibilities" ? (step sons) And I came in with my dog. SO If I help you take care of them, you should help me take care of my dog.
Then he got ANGRY saying that I was comparing his kids to a DAMN DOG! (its been over an hour, and he is still mad) !
Am I wrong? No I know some of you on here dont care for your step kids anyway, but I want honest answers please
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I suppose your DH can't
I suppose your DH can't fathom that you could possibly love your dog as much as he loves his kids. I don't feel that you were wrong, especially since he seems to have reneged on his end of the agreement.
I dont see anything wrong
I dont see anything wrong with it. I do not have children of my own, and I do love my dog with all of my heart, and a marriage is about being fair. You help with the kids, he helps with the dog, BUT I feel like the bigger issue is that he just ISN'T being fair to you. He did not keep up his part of the deal, and it is making you upset, but still is not changing his actions towards you. I say let him be mad! He will get over it, and hopefully see that he was the one that was in the wrong by not doing his part.
DH and I have had the same
DH and I have had the same arugement when he was unkind to my dog from before we were married and I said the same thing. My huband responded the same way as yours. I don't think he's ever understood my point but if it helps I 100% agree with you. It's not about love or anything like that it's about being partners in life. You can't expect someone to care for your chilren and help to ease your burden in life if you aren't willing to do the same.
Im still laughing... The ONLY
Im still laughing... The ONLY time FDH ever took care of my cats (scooping the box) was when I was prego and my doctor specifically said for me not to be touching the litterbox..
HAHA.. now lets get out a calendar and count the YEARS I have helped with SD!
On another note.. I battle the same with the house.. the inside is pretty clean.. but the backyard!?.. Disaster! I cant stand it that I look out the back window and see multiple vehicles/trainers/boat/lawn mower/SDs toys.. all over the place! I cant even go out there. I havent even sat on the new deck he just built cause I cant stand the view!
If I make a fuss about anything he says I take care of the inside.. mercy..
He will get over it. Sorry
He will get over it. Sorry but my dogs are as important as the kids sometimes. He needs to be grateful for everything you do. If you agreed that he does the outside, he should do it.
I'm on your side as well, and
I'm on your side as well, and I have gotten the pissed off "how dare you compare my sons to a dog" routine. It has gotten to the point that I cannot make any comparisons of any kind because he will just get angry. So, I don't. Instead, I employ alot of "artful" phrasing. I'm sure there's a way to say "hey, we're married, so help me out" without mentioning the skid. Even if it's not the most logical way to get help, it's probably the most effective considering he's so touchy. If I were you, I'd be pretty mad. He's really not helping you out. Maybe you can make an opposite deal and he can start taking care of things inside the house and you can chill out with a margarita outside.
Totally agree with the other
Totally agree with the other posters. I can not have children and my dogs ARE my babies. If someone doesn't like that then they can pound sand! Perhaps it is a bit pathetic but I really don't care. My dogs are able to give and receive love joyfully. This is certainly more than I can say about FH's miserable children!!!!!