DH parallel parents...Not by design, but because of BM being a raging lunatic. DH only communicates with her via text...ONLY...Their pick ups and drop offs are either at the school or police station. DH got the judge to put that in the CO...

Two weeks ago, BM sent DH a text message asking DH to miss his weekend so SD could go to a birthday party...DH said he wouldn't miss his weekend...So SD missed the party...

This week, DH picked SD up at the police station, and when she got in the car, she told DH that she has a Girl Scout meeting tomorrow...DH didn't even know she was signed up for Girl Scouts let alone have a meeting...

Here's the problem. DH will have DS all day tomorrow because tomorrow is my "Get out the damn house and enjoy myself" day, and I have reservations at a tea house with my girl friend...

Seems like it's not an issue, right...? DH can take her...The problem is that we have an agreement that DS can not under any circumstances go anywhere where BM might show up...school...drop off location...etc...etc...One of our biggest fears is that she do something to harm our baby, or do something to harm my husband thereby harming our baby...

DH called MIL to see if she could take SD to her meeting, and she said she had "plans"...No surprise here, but she followed it up with why couldn't I take the baby with me or cancel my reservations so SD could go to her Girl Scout meeting...DH basically told her thanks and bye...

It appears that this type of stuff will ALWAYS come up, and I need to figure out how to manage it. I think DH is going to start feeling bad about her missing activities after a while...I get it...I understand it...I even sympathize. While I can disengage and really don't care, I can see it becoming a problem...