Exhausted
Previously, I posted about my 15 yo SD...I spoke to my mother (licensed therapist) about my stressors with this child and my mother informed me that my SD is being passive aggressive and is well aware of what she's not doing....this girl drags her feet, sassy, refuse to do chores, doesn't clean up behind herself, and constantly plays victim....literally do something unpleasant every day....she asked to go to the football game tomorrow I told her no and everything is no as long as she fails to do basic tasks....DH calls and told me she asked could she go to a football game and he's going to ask my son to take her.....I'm so frustrated like I'm legit ready for this girl to go back to her mother; I legit have no reserve for it...I feel a break up coming on because like wtf how many times is DH going to reward her while she makes no effort to be appropriate...at this point the behavior is encouraged from both her parents.....I feel myself getting more and more distant from DH...I'm annoyed and don't feel like putting up with my SD....what would you guys do? .I'm venting so thanks....so exhausting
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I get it! My formerSO's kid
I get it! My formerSO's kid was extremely passive agressive (and full on agressive and extremely nasty hygienicaly) - it IS exhausting. And stressful.
Have you talked to your husband - like fully and bluntly laid it out? If not, you need to do so. This will destroy your relationship - which is probably exactly what she ia trying to do.
I would leave it to him to
I would leave it to him to manage his kid and I would not help in any way. I would also not allow her to be there if he's not there. I'd be civil and polite to her but refer her to her father for every need she has. In addition I'd insist that we separate finances so I'm not funding her in any way.
Then I'd work on my exit plan since eventually I know I'd lose respect for this man and need to leave.