Ok so I thought of a scenario that happened once when my exh was dating someone a while back. She was older then him-and he's already 8yrs older then me...so the woman in her 50's i'm sure thought she knew better then little ole me

It was funny though and I didn't say anything about it, but I remember feeling quite peeved...granted it was also an overstep from exh to even 'tell me the story'-guess he was aggravated w/it also.

My son had a skateboard accident and ended up w/8 staples and a few stitches on his head-yes he NEVER has taken his helmet off since..he did this KNOWING the helmet rules.

Anyways-I ran to ER of course, took care of it-billed to my insurance, etc-phoned the ex to tell him what happened-it was the ex's wknd 3 days later. He was still good w/having the boys-my son was feeling more then ok at this point. Instructions were simple: don't do anything crazy that'll cause you to fall again wash hair normally but don't scrub the sore spot (duh), comb around it make sure not to catch the staples, a mild pain reliever if he needed it-which he didnt' after the 2nd day.
Peroxide and antbiotic ointment as needed-Done, simple, instructions and aid stuff given to ex in a bag

So apparently after they got home and he told about this- his gf at the time got on the phone after my ex was taking a nap, called multiple hospitals trying to get instructions on how to care for the wound....they kept asking her for the childs age, weight, her relationship to child, if he had been treated, etc...she finally frustrated woke him up to ask him his weight...to which he said "why, what's going on"...she explained she was worried and that i obviously didn't give him instructions on how to care for his head properly so she'd take care of it herself by checkign w/professionals lol. He asked who she was calling, and when she said she was on hold w/a hospital nurse he told her to hang up.

Told her again what I told him, eventually she backed down but not after complainig to him about how bad of a mother I was for not sending him apparently w/a bigger kit and check list print out....NOW-when he told me this I obviously got upset but laughed it off...but then looked at him and said honestly no need for me to even tell me this dude, that's your bsns, your gf, you deal w/her.

Certainly if he told her what I had said about 'care' instructions should have been enough but i found it incredibly overstepping to call hopsitals (several) trying to gather info to treat my kid for goodness sakes.

Contrast that w/my ex, had the kids playing outside on some park/field, son fell on a metal sheet and split his finger open (same kamikaze kid lol)-treated him at home-didn't tell me till the next day-did NOT take him to get care- He would have needed stitches-but the time I got to the dr it was too late to get stitches and we had to treat w/antibiotics, tetanus, etc...he has a scar and good use of the finger but it really would have required stitches w/in 24hrs. Dumbo ex gosh!