i will marry my sweetheart in january, and will become a stepmom to his 6 year old daughter. i'm nervous, i want to be the best step-mom i can be, she's a great kid and deserves my best. i've been stressing way too much recently - with moving, planning the wedding, re-organizing and re-decorating his house, work, his ex and the custody battle, and the fact that i'm just a natural worrier....it's been rough. after being on this site for just a little while, i read something that i hope to remember for life, something that made more sense to me than any advice i have heard so far - a simple quote in another member's signature: My whole world changed when I decided to focus on being my dear husbands wife and not his childrens step mother.

i realize, knowing myself as well as i do, that i'll still stress, and i'll still worry about that little girl every minute she isn't with us. but i can let myself stop freaking out about trying to be step-mom of the year and shift my focus toward being there for my man and supporting him through all the bullshit his ex is putting him through. i'm looking forward to sharing our story and learning from others who have been through the same thing.