Absolutely Livid Today!!! SD16 this time....following in big sister's footsteps
My SD16 cleaned out her bedroom the other day and left the garbage in the garage because we didn't have room in the garbage can. I was putting some garbage into the can today, and noticed a bunch of recyclable material in the garbage can so I began to take it out and put it in the recycling can to make more room in our garbage can --- to make it last for the entire week. It was my SD16s garbage.
I found some of MY own stuff in the garbage. One of the items was a knitted hat that my mom had made me for Christmas. I had wondered what had happened to it. It now has a stain on it and a rip in it. Sigh. She took it without asking. Used it without asking. Then threw it in the garbage with no care at all about it being mine at all. I then found some old barbie clothes of mine in there too. They were given to me when I was a child by my mother. They had been hand sewn and I had held on to them for 30+ years. How they ended up in SD16s possession is beyond me!! I also found two candle votive holders that my Mom had also given me in the garbage that SD16 apparently had been using or at least had in her room, didn't ask to use of mine, and then just threw in the trash also!
I am livid! She not only took items out of my bedroom -- but went through my boxes in the garage, took things, used them, then trashed them!
Then to top it off, also found a beer bottle. She's toast. I am so pissed off. Last week her sister took my dining table and two chairs from the house. In order to get them back she told my DH that "if you want them back you can come get them." What the hell?! I already wrote about that one. But these are the kind of people I'm dealing with.
Just waiting for her to get home tonight. We'll see how tonight goes and what my husband does and says. Whatever.
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don't have much to say other
:jawdrop: don't have much to say other than Good Luck!! *speechless*
Yeah, it's hard to wrap my
Yeah, it's hard to wrap my head around how disrespectful and mean humans can be to each other. {{Hugs}} I hope DH sticks it to her good!
Oh wow. Hugs and good luck.
Oh wow. Hugs and good luck. Let us know how it worked out.
Personally, I would be
Personally, I would be dumping whatever was not yours in those garbage bags onto her bed. Then go through her room, throw out anything her mom gave to her and toss into an outdoor bin (bonus points if you can find one with maggots in it) and anything she wants back she can go dig out herself.
Give her a taste of her own medicine. Perhaps if she feels the violation herself she will stop violating you once the realization hits home that you wont get just get mad you will get even!
Despite the fact that I
Despite the fact that I disengaged from my SDs 8 years ago, if this had been my situation, I would definitely confront SD and scream in her face about my precious things being taken and then trashed. This is totally beyond the pale in terms of behaviour. I would also buy myself some locking boxes and keep anything remotely precious in there, so she cannot get her theiving hands on it.
I just remembered, SD14 went through a stealing phase (especially alcohol) about a year or so ago, we locked all alcohol and anything else we thought might catch her magpie eye, in the cellar for the weekend. I take my bag containing cash and cards to my bedroom overnight when she is here.
You need to get a storage
You need to get a storage unit for your things until these miscreants are out of your life...Also, I agree with leaving the garbage in her room. She can clean up her own damn mess. I would be going insane on my DH if this was my SD. Actually she does sound like mine before she left and I have gone insane on him and hence she is no longer here, because I made her life miserable according to her.
& DH needs to pay for it !!!!
& DH needs to pay for it !!!!
Typical entitled skid
Typical entitled skid behaviour, sadly!
Entitled to your stuff, entitled to her stuff, entitled to her dad's wallet.
The list is endless! I feel your pain!
she couldn't deny it -- it
she couldn't deny it -- it was in her own garbage .... her excuse was that she didn't know it was my hat. I said so "my hat got up and walked out of my bedroom and into your hands and into your bedroom?" She says "I don't even wear hats" -- and then says to her brothers "have you ever seen me even wear hats?" and they both say "no" -- now keep in mind I've seen her wear hats plenty of times! Then she says that she thought it was a hat that I had made and that she didn't like so she threw it away! Better yet! Throwing things that I MADE away! Tell you what! I won't be making her anything ever! During the conversation she didn't ONCE say she was sorry! She just kept making excuses for herself. I was furious!
I told her she is to never get into my stuff every again, go into my room again, use my stuff, take my stuff, etc. ever again. I didn't even scream and yell. I was just in disbelief and upset. She wouldn't even hardly look at me. So as she sits and makes excuses for herself, I finally got up and went to my room. Then about a half hour later she comes downstairs and apologizes. Found out the only reason she did was because her brother told her she needed to.
I SO DISLIKE HER! She never accepts responsibility for her actions. Tell you what, I'm not doing anything for her special ever again.