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reluctantgma's picture

Bozo and BH didn't come back last night. Just finished changing all the locks. They fit perfectly and I finished quickly.

Will start packing up their belongings next. By the look of things, they had anticipated taking an extended leave. BH spent Friday evening busily packing stuff out of his room and into the spare bedroom where Bozo keeps a lot of his stuff, but now there are none of the bags that I saw him carry in there. BH's sleeping bag that he got for camp is missing. Bozo has been camped out in the living room for the past week, but all of his most prized or personal possessions are gone, just a few miscellaneous and not often used items. Their massive piles of laundry are gone, other than one relatively small load that was left in the washer.

I left the house yesterday not long after catching Bozo in the shed smoking pot. Figured they'd get the hell outta my hair given time for them to find someone to come get them. They were gone when I returned. Bozo phoned in the early afternoon to ask if I needed him to tend to my critter chores since he didn't know how long I might be gone. Nope.

The past week has been so Twilight Zone in my house that I'm incredibly relieved that the bulging zit has finally come to a head and popped. BH has been particularly annoying and unbearable, but that's probably because his father has been using him as his substitute spouse and confidante.

On Tuesday when I told Bozo that I would accept his poor "no conflict path of least resistance" custody agreement with BH's BM providing he carry his and BH's expenses in my household, things lightened up for a few hours. As soon as we got home and set about evening chores, BH came trotting over from his assignment (which needed to be completed so I could get my part done) to tell me my phone in the kitchen on the charger had rung and it was my daughter. I can't even count the times BH has been told that minding MY phone is unappreciated and unnecessary. Once again I told him. He skulked back to his chores. Bozo wasted no time jumping in my case. Poor BH was just trying to be helpful. Well Bozo, it wasn't helpful and you both should know that by now. Later, BH took great pleasure in toting Bozo's ringing phone out to him. Hope you both tremendously enjoyed that chesty jig. Bozo has phone service through me. It will ring no more as of tomorrow.

Once I started going to CoDA meetings mid-week, each night I came home to my front door locked and no porch light to see my way inside. Bathroom light glaring in the house, 'cause poor BH needs extra help to find 'im way to duh bathroom one step away from his bedroom. BH's door wide open 'cause he must keep watch over his dependent (aka dad). Sick. Today when I went in BH's room to see what was there, I found his trash can full of fruit bar wrappers that are not good enough for him to eat on his way out to school, half a dozen other sweet wrappers and MY empty soda cans he'd pilfered out of my kitchen without asking; an empty pack of my cigarettes and a 480 calorie pint of strawberry ice cream that his father bought and BH had used as an ashtray when he'd finishing chugging it down. Have fun paying for feeding your fat fuckhead spouse/parent/tyrant to another couple hundred pounds, Bozo, and making excuses to school authorities for his smoking.

Sorry, had to vent. Yes, it is good to be free from such sick people. Found a CoDA meeting in relatively close range for tonight. If they do return, they can pick their things up off the porch and find somewhere else to go, hopefully without my having to look at them.

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reluctantgma's picture

GMTA (Great Minds Think Alike) Foxie!

I hadn't seen where you said that, but had already started pulling the windows down. My ex-husband did the window stunt after he was tossed out many years ago. Have also put in a call to nearby friends who can cruise by and check on the house discreetly when they finish work.

Am missing my expensive camping mattresses (~$180), so they must have taken them for their Disney weekend. Kind of a fly in my soup. 200+lb pissy pants Baby Huey sleeping on MY mattress?! Ewww. Is it worth my $180 to phone and inquire?

reluctantgma's picture

"expect him to contact you when they need a new one ..."

Guess I'll laugh about that, but it's so true it hurts.

CrazyCubanStepMOM's picture

Hugs to you girl. Stay strong. He is not worth it. Your life will be much better without him. I have been there, and I look back now and am like wow what was I thinking.

alwaysanxious's picture

Stepping in for the group hug as well. I LOVE that they will find their things on the porch. You've ripped the bandaid and its done. No dragging out, no compromises or what ifs. You are doing a good thing for you.

reluctantgma's picture

Constantly begging for basic respect and courtesies from someone who claims to love me is a sick and unfit way of life. It is not love, no matter how hard I hoped and pretended there was love. I kept blaming myself for not communicating in an understandable way, but no, Bozo didn't care to hear. Bozo didn't care. Yeah, how could I be so blind?

Still Have Hope's picture

Wishing you the best in a new life without losers dragging you down. You will survive and thrive.

reluctantgma's picture

Thanks Snarky - think I'd rather pass on vid capture. Would probably amount to BH holding his father's hand while they cluck and shake their poor downtrodden heads about what an unreasonable crazy bitch I am. If Bozo's Pa brings them, it will be the clucker chorus. Pa will have the pleasure of telling Bozo how he should have done things his way as he loads their stuff into the car to take them back to his place to live in the greasy shop garage.

I have cleaned off the porch, but there's only so much I can put away and conceal. Bozo is the steaming passive aggressive type. He's never behaved in conspicuously violent or destructive ways. Not beneath Baby Huey to kick the door. Bozo would say he didn't want that to happen, but how could BH help it? I was SO mean to them!

Frustrated. Power is out again. Can't get my chores done, can't take a shower. Don't want to be around here past 4pm.