So BM's husband, who she married immediatly after the divorce was final, HATES my SO. You would think my SO would hate him since they were obviously having an affair, which was part of the break down of the marriage.....

Entitlement #1
Anyway, BM'sH has decided that SO is not welcome on their property so they now have to meet in town to pick up/drop off. Which is fine, but she regularly drops SS at my home. Most recently, the nanny was home with the baby. BM came to pick up SS for a drs appt and she had the gal to walk in to my home! She did not knock or announce herself. She just opened the door and walked in. My nanny was disgusted. She informed BM that she should wait by the door and nanny would retrive SS for her.
THERE WILL BE NO MORE BM AT MY HOUSE -HOW DISRESPECTFUL!

Entitlement #2
BM thinks she should have unlimited contact with SS when he is at our house (4 days EOW). She will blow up SO's cell phone at 6:30 on a saturday morning! Yet she restricts our phone contact with SS when he is at her house (sometimes for 9 day stretches). BM disconnected her home phone and won't give SO her new cell phone number. The only way for him to contact SS is through BM's work cell phone, which she turns off after hours. We thought we would beat her at her own game and purchased a cell phone for SS. Well, BM's husband would not allow SS to use the cell phone at their house! BUT BM would blow up his cell phone when he was at our house. One day I decided enough was enough and I blocked all of BM's phone numbers from SS cell. I pay for it, I can make that call.
Come on lady, we get 4 days, deal with it!

Entitlement #3
BM took SS on a trip to Mexico recently (for 3 weeks). She promised regular phone contact ie once per week while they were gone so SO agreed to the trip absent a court order. As you can imagine, well in to week number 2 we still have not had ANY contact from SS. At the beginning of week number 3, SO gets a phone call from some random person he does not know that had been traveling with BM. She tells SO, that LAST WEEK SS had an emergency appendectomy and provided the hotel name that they were staying at. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? BM's excuse was that she "was worried enough for both of them" and "there was nothing [SO]could do anyway." WHAT? How about SS scared to death laying in a hospital bed wondering why daddy didn't care?!?!?!?!
PAY YOUR LAWYER FOR A COURT ORDER NEXT TIME!

From one BM to another - GET OVER IT!