We have a weekon-week off agreement with the BM. I love Sundays because they're going to their mom's today. Yay! I love them, so on the next Sunday, I'll be hapy it's sunday because I missed them.

From looking at a few ppl's blogs on here and talking to some friends, I found something disturbing about some women that are setting up to become SMs: So many have a hero complex. You can NOT save your man and his kids. If you love the kids and the man enough to get involved, do so. Just know that this will be the hardest thing you ever do. Marriage is hard enough for ppl without skids to deal with. What you are doing by marrying this man is NOT bringing a woman/mother-figure into their lives. You are not going to "show them what a woman should be". :sick: You are not going to change their lives and make them love their daddy. A woman can be a great influence in a man's life if the man is looking for some help. But the kids have a mother and a woman in their loife. You are not only marrying this man, but the woman he has had the most painful thing done to him with. You will never have what she has with him, hopefully. You may have kids with him, but hopefully, you will not go through that pain with him. :O The kids will never view you as their mother, but they may grow to love you. Do not come into a marriage thinking you will fix their hearts. Only God and time can do that. Takethe advice of women that have gone through what you are planning on doing and continually remind yourself that this too shall pass.