I need some opinions on a life changing decision that DH & I must make. Here is some back ground info so you can get a better idea of the decision DH & I have to make.

DH & I have been together for 12 years and married for 10 of them. Between the 2 of us, we have 3 children(SD16, SD14, & BS13). SD16(has only been with us for 2 years) & BS13 live with DH & I and SD14 lives with BM. Up until 3 years ago we all lived in the same state. DH, BS13, & myself moved 1000 miles away for a better job offer that DH had. A year later, we got custody of SD16 due to the stepdad molesting her(which I find out later today if his call hearing was continued, yet again). We have had our ups and downs, but lately it seems as though we are on a streak of very bad luck. In March DH's truck had to have front end work done to it, then a month later my van, then a week later DH needed 2 new tires, and now his truck needs more front end work done. Well DH is the only one working, because I have not been able to find anything where I don't have to travel under an hour away to get there. If I want to travel 2+ hours to get there and then another 2+ hours to get home, I could have a job. But at minimum wage, that commute is not worth it with the gas prices.

Well my father owns his own trucking business and has so much work, that he can't do it all himself. Plus my dad is 56 years old and has health problems and wants DH & I to eventually take over the business. He has tried to find help, but can't find anyone that will do it & who is reliable. So my father has made DH & I an offer. His offer is...he will make us(well me, due to a greedy BM) partners of his business, he will guarantee DH & I a steady salary with health benefits, he will provide us a home to live in rent free until we could save up to buy our own, and he will come 1000 miles to move us back to PA.

My dad made us this offer last week. When I first told DH about it, DH said no. Then over the weekend DH & I were going over our bills and we can pay all of our bills & gas for him to get to work, but we won't have money for food or any extras that we need. And it won't help us if I would take a minimum wage job that is 2+ hours away. Well on Monday, DH says call your dad and make sure he is serious and DH had some other questions for me to ask him too. So I did and my dad is serious and gave me the answers to all of DH's questions. And now DH & I are seriously considering it. But here is the problem....BS13 & SD16 don't want to move. SD16 will be a Senior next year, she made cheer captain for next year, & is enrolled in a program that will pay her college tuition for 5 years. BS13 has a lot of friends here, is on the football team, and just doesn't want to move. So do DH & I uproot BS13 & SD16 again? If we do, SD16 already said she would go live with BM if we did move back. DH feels that in the long run, it is a good move for us. Because our income will triple, if not more. But DH isn't certain we should uproot the kids again. SD16 will possibly go to the school she went to before moving in with us. But BS13 will have to go to another new school, where he knows no one.

I have not been able to sleep since DH started considering doing this. I tried for 7 years to get DH to move away from my family. Not my dad, just my mom & her side of the family. There is a lot of bad history there and I don't want to go back to it. Plus if we do go back, my dad will be living in the finished room in the garage of the house he is supplying for us. Because finally after a year from telling my mom he wanted a divorce, he is moving out. She just doesn't know it yet. And I know when she finds all this out, it will cause big problems.

I just need some opinions about what you would do in this situation. I have no one to turn to. No one in my family knows about this and don't want them to until I know what we are going to do. But I need some opinions.