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I dont know how to survive 2 weeks of summer.

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Submitted by meneran on Tue, 04/12/2011 - 3:41am

We have booked 12 days away for the summer holiday. The kid is with us for 2 weeks. He was just here for the 3 days (the longest so far) and I honestly couldnt wait for him to go.

I do not know how to survive entire 2 weeks with this kid.
I already know hows it gonna be. He is gonna call 'Dad, dad, daaaaaad' for every little shit. He wont be able to spend one minute entertaining himself. He will want everything to be about him. He will not want to go anywhere but stay inside the hotel complex (probably he wont want to go to the beach, only the small pool in front).

I am getting very tired of him and his lazyness. I am tired of him just sitting on his overweight ass and whine how he doesnt want to go anywhere or do anything.

I am tired of his CONSTANT attention seeking.

I am afraid that summer holiday is going to be pretty much end of our relationship.

How do i survive this?

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Submitted by asm123 on Tue, 04/12/2011 - 4:54am

Good morning:

This is YOUR vacation as much as his. Book a tour or excursion for yourself, spa, ect... let him have "quality" time with dad and you take a break. Thinking positive will truly get you through this. I lived it for 4 years, and believe me... take time for you, the patience for this little child will come.

Take care.. enjoy your life... you deserve it...

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Submitted by Holly on Tue, 04/12/2011 - 5:17am

If you know that he is going to behave in a way that annoys you, then plan things for yourself and leave him to Dad. Expect and plan for the worst.

I'm probably in the same situation - my SD17 wants to drag her guitar half way across the world on a long haul flight because she just can't be without her music for two whole weeks. And when I objected (we've been here before), Daddy smiled at me with pity and told me how I don't understand, I'm not a musician. (YEAH, neither is she!)

I was fuming at first but my attitude now is: When (not if) she complains that she can't carry her guitar AND her suitcase, I will refuse to help and I will refuse to allow her sister to be treated as a cart horse also - DAAAADDDDY can carry everything. When the guitar case won't fit into the rental car, Ms musician will have to carry it on HER knee - or DAAADDDYY can fork out for an upgrade. When she brings her guitar out to the poolside and starts banging and screeching, I will retire inside with my wine and read (I love to read) and DAAAAADDDDDYYY can be the one to suffer a headache (and faceache from smiling and pretending his princess is soooo talented).

It will piss my DH off no end, he has visions of romantic twilights with his attentive wife by the pool, gentle strains of music in the background, his happy little princesses frolicking in the water.... I can't wait for reality to smack him in the face. }:)

But I've waited for this vacation for so long - I WILL enjoy it in spite of madam and her shenanigans.

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Submitted by meneran on Tue, 04/12/2011 - 6:23am

The problem with planning something for myself only is that daddy cant survive with his kid on his own either. Plus I dont want to go somewhere alone in a foreign country which i dont know the language off.

Im just thinking to get through these 2 weeks and see how does daddy feel. If it ends up being a disaster more then fun, then I will promptly inform him that i go no more on such holidays.

Thats my only plan for now. Suffer through it.

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Submitted by Holly on Tue, 04/12/2011 - 12:34pm

I understand the not being comfortable going off alone in a foreign country... but Daddy not being able to survive with the kid? HIS kid? That HE messed up? That HE fawns over and spoils? Too bad. You have to toughen up. He made this mess and if you keep 'rescuing' him by running interference for him with the kid, you are just contributing to the mess too. Daddy needs to be fully exposed to the reality of the situation he has created here.

You really need to take a step back here. If you just grin and bear it for two weeks, by the time you are planning next year's vacation, Daddy will have forgotten and when you refuse to go, he will think YOU are the one being unreasonable. After all, this year wasn't so bad. No, no, this year has to be a total and complete nightmare for Daddy that he will never forget. Otherwise he will never face reality.

Take lots of books and an ipod and headphones with you. When junior acts up, settle on the hotel room balcony/ restaurant terrace/ pool lounger, plug yourself in and read on... let Daddy deal with junior 100% of the time. Don't be critical when junior refuses to go to the beach. Just smile and say 'ok'. Later tell DH what a pity he had to miss out, you heard the beach was great. Make the point that HE is missing stuff because of his kid - without mentioning the kid or yourself. If he tries to get you to take care of junior, just smile and say 'ok - when I'm done reading' - read slowly! Absolutely DO NOT give him any physical intimacy 'because I just can't relax when junior is right next to us, honey'. Remind him now and again at just the right moment how fun/special/sexy it was on that one vacation you actually took alone. Don't give him an inch!!!

With any luck, you might get another vacation alone next year. If not, at least you probably won't get one with junior. Smile By the way, you are likely to run into other english speakers wherever you are... you might be able to make some holiday 'friends' and disappear to the beach with them, leaving Daddy with his precious at the pool.... Blum 3

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Tue, 04/12/2011 - 6:46am

I am the same. I am worried the summer will end us. Skids will stay with us for one or two weeks here and there. I am really hoping SD will get a job near her moms and have to stay there a lot. I don't want to deal with her. Two days is difficult enough.