I'm So Fuc*ing Tired Of It All!!!!!!!!!
OMG! I'm so fed up right now!
Lastnight SD was suppose to see DH for two hours, as usual. And of course she didn't come. SD sent DH a text 20 minutes before pick up that said "I dont feel good" DH calls her and asks her whats wrong. SD says she has a tummy ache and her head just starting hurting 10 minutes ago. DH just says "ok, whatever." I'm so fucking tired of this shit. For 9 years BM has tried her best to alienate SD from DH. Good job BM, seems as though your tactics are starting to finally work.
A couple weeks ago, BM told SD she didn't have to see DH for his weekend(BM told SD she could go to a party with BM) Of course a party sounds more fun at the time. BM won again. No weekend with DH. Then this. I've been dealing with this crap for 6 years now. I'm so done with SD. SD is 9 years old, she knows right from wrong and she also knows that not seeing her father hurts him and our two bios.
I know SD is saying bad things about DD5 because the last time BM flipped out on DH on the phone, she called our DD a "little monster." Bitch. My daughter is so well behaved and is nothing but nice to SD. It breaks my heart knowing what SD says about our children and then DH and I are the ones to have to explain to BD5 and BS2 that SD will not being coming over this weekend or this day. I hate to see the pain in their eyes when BM decides SD doesn't have to come over.
It's not SDs choice. It's BMs responsibility to get SD to DH for his scheduled visits. I'm tired of the alienation. I'm tired of the enticing. I'm tired of all the bullshit. I'm tired of watching DH bend over backwards for this child who has ZERO sense of graditude. ZERO sense of remorse or guilt. A child who is FULL of entitlement.
DH is in the process of FINALLY getting his crap together to get into a damn court room for a custody modification. I love to think that a judge will see all the insane and abnormal antics and behavior of BM and all of the violations, but then the other half of me has a really hard time believing that DH will EVER get custody of SD. I can only hope. But then what happens if we do get custody? How will SD take it? SD is soooooo attached to her mother(creepy) that I know SD will have such a hard time being away from her for more than a weekend. I don't know if I can handle all the crying and moodiness to come if it actually happens. Therapy will definitely be needed.
UGH...I'm so tired of it all...Sometimes I wish BM would take SD and run somewhere. 
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Ugh...this is all too
Ugh...this is all too familiar to me. Has your DH ever filed for contempt?
If you do get custody, DH
If you do get custody, DH needs to drop that "guilty daddy" thing in fear of SD going back to the BMs. It is completely ruining her.
I hear you. The BM did the same thing and we heard the stories. Now they've been gone for over a year and a half (three years for the older two)
Do these men really think it will get better by sticking their heads in a dark and unsanitary place?
Therapy will be needed for SD
Therapy will be needed for SD regardless of whether she comes to live with you F/T or not. DH should consider trying to get that in court.
I'm sorry you're all going through this. All I can suggest is be there for your husband and SD and have DH build a good paper trail on BM. Keep every email and text to and from her. Write down when BM doesn't let SD come over. Document the time, too. Maybe consider getting a small camera for the outside of your home so you can have proof on video that BM never showed (DH should check with his attorney on this one). Also have him ask the attorney if he can record his conversations with SD and BM.
SD might know right from wrong but she might also face punishment from BM if she shows any interest in you, DH and your kids. That will cause the kids to obey the alienating parent even if they know it's hurting the non-alienating parent. It's also BM's job to make her see DH and get her to him, and it's her job to be an adult for SD and not bash him, you and your kids to her. Hopefully, a judge can force her to see that.