BM threatening court
So BM informed DH in an email that:
"I am building a case against you! That you are trying to erase me from SDs life and distance my relation with you!" (love that last part)
Her "proof" is that DH communicates only via email now and she can't call/text his cellphone. Oh, and that when she calls the home phone (every night for the past month or so), SD10 is occasionally not home, or forgets to call her back. That is "limiting my time and if I want to call my daughter every fuc*ing night I should be able to! I don't care where she is!"
Ok, BM. The world revolves around you and your sick twisted little mind and what you suddenly decide you 'want'. Nevermind that you have never in SDs entire life ever wanted to talk to her every night. Or even once a week. Let's keep pretending this is about your burning new desire to have a relationship with your kid, and not about your desperation for attention from DH now that he's put some boundaries in place with your toxic crap. Build away, you drunken fool.
Your DH shouldn't respond to
Your DH shouldn't respond to that email.
Ignore. Threats get no
Ignore. Threats get no response. Let her take it to court.
HCBMs love to threaten court,
HCBMs love to threaten court, that's usually all they have and they think it means something and scares people.
Seems she is doing a fine job, all by herself, of erasing herself from SD's life, and the whole reason for divorce (or whatever in their case) was to "distance her relation" to your DH.
BM over her has always been very litigious, suing people if she thought she could get something. But I told DH, as long as you know your rights and you are doing right, there is nothing to worry about. The only time DH and BM went to court after the divorce, was when HE charged HER with contempt (and won).
Ignore.
The key line there is
The key line there is "distance my relationship with you!"
It clearly is NOT about SD, it's about her wanting attention from your DH. Hopefully your DH understands that. My SO did not get this in the beginning. He gets it now, even admitted it. I told him countless times, it's not about skids it's about YOU!! You were her forever back burner pawn to control.
From what she sounds she is absolutely not "building a case" because she has no "case." She is just trying to be controlling of DH. As long as he understands this... ignore her craziness.
This POS does not care about
This POS does not care about her kid. She is infuriated that your DH has purged her from regular interface with him.
He needs to tell her to shit or get off the pot with the threats of court and that he is ready to bare her ass in front of a Judge any time she wants.
You guys are all spot on
Thanks for the comments, you are all right. He is ignoring it. The manipulation and projection is obvious. She's accusing him of being "controlling" for not playing her latest game. You need to COMMUNICATE with me!!! You need to let me call whenever I want!! You need to give me a number to reach her at wherever she is whenever she isn't home!! You need to blah blah blah... but HE is being controlling? Hmmm....
Same
My situation seems very similar to yours. Last year we went to court 4 times and are currently scheduled for another. But we are doing the right thing and placeing bounderies as well and things are slowly getting better. I wish you guys the best!!
Ah yes, it's always about BM,
Ah yes, it's always about BM, never the children. BM in my life loves to threaten court as well and usually her threats revolve around what DH needs to do for her, not anything to do with parenting. She also continually pitches a fit that DH doesn't giver her enough attention. My counselor refers to her as a "chaotic individual" who "always makes everything about herself."