BM's spending spree
Ok, so it's HER money to do what she wants with it..but I'm just going to vent. BM refuses to put the skids in sports because she claims she doesn't have money. Then she lies to her daughter that it doesn't work out because the times confict with school...it's a complete lie so she doesn't have to pay for the sports and because it's "somewhat" of a hassle for BM to have to drive them to and from something and supervise and, oh, BE A PARENT! (We would just put them in ourselves but we have them on a rotating schedule, not the same days each week, so if we did take them we'd also have to rely on BM to take them every otehr week or to coordinate with her for us to take them...which is almost impossible.)
Okay so I posted awhile back that BM was getting FDH's tax return of $4,000 for backpay. They discussed that one thing she's going to use some of that money for would be to put the kids in some activities. She told FDH tthat she would do that, and also that she's going to use it to pay off a lot of her bills so she can have a "better life" monthly. She almost filed bankruptcy last year and apparently has a ton of debt to pay off to a loan consolidation thing -- she told FDH she owes that one bill about 800 a month and she'd probably use the 4k to pay off that.
I just snooped on her Facebook and she's been posting for about a week now about all of her new things she's bought -- she listed that she now owns 62 pairs of shoes (After buying 6 new pairs), and made a list of all the clothing items and accessories she bought on her shopping spree. She also took a vacation in Chicago last weekend. And yesterday's post was about loving her new LCD TV and DirectTV package.
Will she put the kids in activities? The jury's still out but I'm willing to bet that she will will soon be out of money for such things.
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"FDH's tax return of $4,000
"FDH's tax return of $4,000 for back pay” This is exactly why you don't want to over pay your federal or state income tax. My wife and I make sure that we owe a few hundred $ at the end of each year so that the IRS and state(s) can't keep our money for any reason.
Too many people use the IRS as a savings account. Bad move IMHO. The IRS/state does not pay interest on your money and if a court enters a judgment against you then a tax return may never get returned to you and could easily go for CS arrears, alimony, etc, etc, etc......
If your DH owes arrears in CS or Alimony he is better off setting up a multi year repayment through direct payroll withholding than over paying your taxes and letting the X get it in one lump sum.
At least on $50/mo arrearage repayment plan she won't be going on any $4000.00 shopping trips with money that should be going to support the kids.
Yes he did have an amount
Yes he did have an amount coming out of his paycheck going towards the backpay but the remainder was taken from his taxes...and he gets a bonus this month at work so even if he would have altered his taxes like you suggested, the 4k would have come out of his bonus anyway...
Atleast we're all caught up now on back pay and his monthly check going to bM lowers now!
To avoid loosing a tax return
To avoid loosing a tax return to her in the future, I would recommend setting your tax credits to a hair below what you need in order to cover your payroll tax liabilities so that you owe a little bit at the end of the year.
That way there is no return to loose to her in the future.
Congrats on getting the back pay cleared. That is a huge burden off of your family financial shoulders I am sure.
Best regards,
rags is 100% dead on!! i
rags is 100% dead on!! i know it has nothing to do with op's problem, but his point is a very good one...
Ergh! sounds like our bm.
Ergh! sounds like our bm. She got 5600.00 as part of my dh's backpay for disability for ss. She made sure she told my dh that she asked the people at ss if she could use it for anything she wanted. They told her yes. I will say she gave dh 2000.00 of it back-which legally she did not have to do it at all. I think she just felt guilty as she knew she intended not to spend one iota of it on ss-she gave dh the 2000.00 back but made him promise to spend it on ss. We bought him a summer wardrobe, a school wardrobe, a local amusement park season pass, and took him on a beach vacation for a week. Then of course we also spent it on food, gas,entertainment, camping trips etc on all the regular visits we had with him as well. She spent her portion on herself. And then complained because she wanted us to buy him a laptop, cellphone, and all sorts of other crap.