My therapist is awesome- he calls me out on my shit and FDH's too and he helps. My issue is, I really try hard to work on the stuff, I try really really hard. FDH sometimes brings up stuff "the therapist said" that I'm not doing- basically I hold a grudge on the things that Sd15 does to me and says about me and I have adult expectations for sd15 and "she's just a kid"

My ass she's a kid, yea she's immature for her age but she's a TEENAGER who needs to be held responsible for her actions- I stand my ground on this, she's not 5.

FDH is supposed to work on a genuine relationship and not just being a bank and money tree to her. Spend quality time together , not taking her out to eat every time etc

Anywho, SD15 goes on spring break with her mom and her mom allows sd's boyfriend on the trip (IMO inappropriate AND they both lied and hid it from FDH) Not my business- whatever
FDH took her on a spring wardrobe shopping spree-$300 for her vacation and summer clothes. She doesn't call him or come over after that-duh. She's gone a week and FDH misses her, she was supposed to come Sunday, never showed- it was her and her bf's 6 month anniversary :sick: She was supposed to come monday- never showed up

Tuesday, she comes over............

FDH " Your sweet 16 is coming up in June- what should we do for your birthday? Should I throw a big party? Do you want to go somewhere? What do you want? You are only 16 once.... :sick:
Your bf asked you to prom? I'll pay for 1/2. Oh you want a suite at a hotel and Benihanas for dinner with all your friends (like $45) a meal- OK!!!!!

Are you f'n kidding me? What happened to not showering her with gifts and and offering $ and material things just bc you miss her so much? I thought we discussed this in therapy???

Now, "I'm just mad bc he's going to spend $ on her" :jawdrop:

I kick myself for even bringing up anything- it's fair game! He calls me out! I'm so irritated- it's his $, I'm just SO sick of him talking the talk and as soon as she's around and he see's her it's like not my bf- everything we agree upon and discuss and work out in therapy goes out the window.

And it's not about the $ bc the $ doesn't affect me at all- doesn't hurt my pockets, it hurts me to see him get used and burned and taken advantage of, as soon as he's on board and see's it, he misses her and starts offering all this shit to make her need him? or miss him??? IDK???? :? He's a dumbass

He just brought me lunch at work bc he was working in the area and I'm still mad and most of all disappointed. I'm trying so hard on my end and he's just saying what sounds good- lunch is delicious but he can't buy my love! HA!