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Doctors, Kids, and BM

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Submitted by Unhappy on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 2:39pm

Begin vent:

Okay, so my SO had a pretty intersting convo last night with BM.

It started last Thursday night. When I got home from work I was told that FSD(6) was sick. She was running a feaver and sleeping. She continued to run a fever throughout the weekend. Nothing high enough to worry. Both my SO and I made sure that she had plenty of liqids, tylenol, rest, and tried to get her to eat.

Monday rolls around and it's BM's week. BM drops BD off at school. BD is at school all day. When BD comes home BM takes her temp and I guess it was up to 103.4. So BM takes BD to the doctor. The doctor runs tests on BD to see if she has influenza 1 or 2. Before the results are in she calls SO and tells him that if he had brought BD in on Saturday they could have given her antivirals and tries to make SO feel like sh!t. BM calls back about 30 minutes later to say that the tests came back negative and the doctor had advised her to take BD home give her tylenol, plenty of liquids, and lots of rest. BM then proceeds to tell SO that he should use his vacation time to take care of BD during her week because she doesn't have any paid time off. SO says no. BM then tries to guilt trip him by making saying that he basically doesn't care about his child. SO stands his ground and says no. End of conversation.

WTF!! Who the hell does she think she is. Telling him that he's a crapy parent one minute and then expecting him to help her by watching BD on HER week and then turns around and calls him a crapy parent when he says no. The last time I checked, when I was a single mother, I stayed home with my BD when she was sick. Why might you ask? Because it's my responsibility. Plus the crazy BM has family that live in the same city. And there's no way in hell after all the crazy crap she has done that he would ever help her. She stalked him for like the first 8 months of our relationship not to mention all the mind crap she has pulled with FSD. And tried to destroy my realtionship with SO. Crazy a$$ stupid b!tch. Find somebody elses life to f^ck with. Or better yet get one of your own.

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Submitted by dragonfly on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 3:02pm

i had something similar happen to us when we had sd. she vomited once and felt fine after she did but hubby made the mistake of telling bm. bm over reacted and wanted hubby to go drop her off so bm could take her to the hospital. hubby told her it wasnt necessary cause sd was feeling fine, bm even talked to sd and sd she was fine. any ways we dropped her off cause is was sunday. so bm says she is not taking her but lied about it. we all know how long it takes for a doctor to see u in a hospital it takes hours and just for them to give u tylenol. bm takes her and they spend like 3 hours in there and sd wasnt even sick...can someone please explain her actions??? plain dumb

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Submitted by Unhappy on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 3:05pm

I know. She's nuts. She has family that lives 5 minutes away. And after she treated him like crap she expected him to help her. What an entitled brat. She has been a terror my relationship with SO. I have so many thoughful things that I would like to say so this stupid biotch.

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Submitted by stepmasochist on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 3:35pm

Yeah, BMs and their sick kids. One time DH got skids and oldest SD was sick. She had just started running a fever and it was Friday. We gave her tylenol and lots of liquids and popsicles, kept her comfy. Her fever kept coming back. I looked up online and it said for a kid her age as long as it didn't reach a certain temp, watch it for 72 hours and if the fever's still coming back, take her to the doctor. My mom has also been a nurse for like 30 years and confirmed this.

Well, we take her back to BM on that Monday. BM is informed of SD's status. A few hours later BM flips out because she calls DH demanding that he meet her at the pharmacy to pay for some over the counter medicine (on top of her CS of course) and he says "Sorry I can't I'm in a meeting." Well, she keeps harrassing him and he finally says, "I'm in a meeting with a divorce lawyer." LOL! (just as a side note, I was NOT the other woman. BM had already filed for divorce a year before I met DH she never paid the lawyer so it never got finished until he got it finished)

She flips out and ends up chasing us down to MIL's house and has this scene in the yard yelling at me about, "If my child needs a doctor you need to take her to the doctor. What do you know? You don't have kids all you have is your college degree!" Uh, enough lady, it's not rocket science. But I didn't say anything to her. Needless to say after that display she still didn't take her to the doctor for three days. She called us that same evening as her little episode to tell DH that SD's fever had broken - um well duh, you give 'em some Tylenol it goes down, when that wears off, it goes back up.

Yep, she's MOTY material for sure.

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Submitted by dragonfly on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 4:31pm

is it me or skids get sick a lot?? we get the insurace activity through the mail and all i see is sds name more than once a month she goes to the dr.

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Submitted by AlexandraL on Tue, 03/15/2011 - 8:41pm

Omg, I feel for you. I experienced a very similar situation when I was with my exBF and his daughter. She'd try to bully him into staying home but the thing is, everytime he stayed home he was jeopardizing his job...the same job that made it possible to pay her CS! I understand her not wanting to lose a day's pay but she'd lose a lot more if exbf lost his job.

In addition, his daughter had this sick fascination/attention seeking thing with being sick and BM and even exbf fed into it. As a mother, I was disgusted watching them F their kid up and also very angry/frustrated how minor childhood bugs spiralled into these ridiculous fears of childhood cancer, meningitis, WTF! BM is a total hypochondriac and used to check SD's lymph nodes even when she was feeling well. What a weirdo. I actually feel sad for her because BM drives herself nuts with worry, as did exBF because they were so "afraid of losing the only egg in the basket". I could see if SD had some sort of chronic illness, but her getting sick early in her school career was d/t the fact BM kept her home for her first three years because she was afraid SD would get sick! The poor thing had no immunity to anything.

Anyway, I feel for you. This is the type of BS that is WAY worse than the minor things some people complain on here about...the normal things that ALL kids -- bio and step -- do that drive us wild. This is true dysfunction and damn it, I am so happy not to have to deal with it or witness it anymore!