I'm actually ticked off at some on this site. I came here when I had issues with my skids and even took advise with my own kids. I can honestly say I've walked away with a lot of wisdom here and felt we all share a common bond. A lot of us have horrible BM's, skids who steal, lie or do whatever they can to cause drama, disney dads who overspend the budget buying love, really horrible stuff. Recently I've just become overly upset about a skid who isn't being treated fairly, a skid who is being punished for things a bio can get away with. I really have a hard time with that. While I'm sure I haven't always been fair I've always tried, if anything I think I've been harsher on my own kids. My husband was even suprised when I grounded my own daughter for staying out until 4am with his son who didn't get any punishment. Sure it hurt to make my daughter sit on the couch a year ago on New Years Eve when she had plans, I even had to cancel our plans to sit with her but thats what a parent does. He saw I have the best interest for all of our kids and that while I hate youngest SS's behavior I don't hate him as a person and that I'd do the right thing for him. I'd never take something that was expensive from my skids to give it to my kids and I'd never punish my skids for something I wouldn't punish my own kid for. I really hate the saying "you knew what you were getting into" because I don't think that's fair. But I can say with this particular person she knew her husband had a kid and she can't seem to accept it and treat the kids as fairly as possible. I know you don't just love skids right away and I know you may never love them the same as you do your own kids but you don't go out of your way to treat the skid bad just because they aren't yours either. I also think I may have to try to not come here as often, while it helped me in the past and it even helps me in the present with my own kids it's causing me way to much frustration.