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Baptizing Skids?

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 10:45am

I know this has been a hot topic in the past, but I'd like opinions.

We are planning to baptize our baby. We're not incredibly religious, but it's important to my family and to DF's family. While we were discussing this the other night, DF said he'd really like to baptize his son, SS3 while we're at it. It makes sense that if we're going to do it, we should do it at the same time.

This is something he'd discuss with BM first. I have a few questions I'd like opinions from all of you on:

1. What happens if BM wants to be involved in it? She never showed any interest back when they had SS but maybe she's changed her tune. Would it be normal for SS3 to have a PAIR of godparents on each side, or would it make more sense for BM choose one person and DF choose one person?

2. What if BM doesn't want anything to do with it but doesn't care what we do? Do we still invite her family/parents or keep it strictly DF's family?

3. How do we handle it if BM is completely against it happening at all? Just not do it for SS3?

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SteppingUp's picture

Submitted by SteppingUp on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 11:37am

I guess it states something about beliefs and how neither parent should push the child towards one way or the other without other parent's consent. Obviously worded differently than that Smile

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Submitted by SusiQ on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 11:20am

We just had DDs baptism. I would definetly separate them - this is a pretty important event and the focus should be on the child.

I'm Catholic so we baptized DD & DS. DS was an incredible event, we had a private ceremony after a regular mass in the church at the school where my mom worked and my whole family came - it was beautiful.
DDs was almost laughable. My folks have since moved to TX to be near the kids and we're still looking for a church home here - I chose a church and we did everything that we needed to do. There were 8 children being baptized that day and 3 of them showed up at least 20 mins late and then basically only us and one other family really understood what we were there for - for a lot of folks it's just the thing you do if you're catholic. It was just very impersonal.

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Submitted by Dawn-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 11:26am

In our case Bm had/has no religion/church. Ss was not baptized. Bm had previously told Dh that she didn't care what church we took Ss to as long as it was Christian.

That being said, we got married when Ss was 5yrs old. We too had to sign saying we would raise any kids Catholic(in our case).

After we got married, I wanted to get Ss baptized. Dh thought it was a good idea too so we talked to the priest that married us and he agreed to baptized Ss.

Dh and I picked the God parents and we didn't involve Bm or her family at all because she didn't really care.

By the time Ss was getting ready to start 2nd grade, he had come to live with us. After that we enrolled him in PSR(Parish School of Religion) without asking Bm because once again, she didn't care and didn't really want to be involved in any of it.

It all depends on the situation I guess.