And it gets even better....

You know, I love my SO but he is freakin clueless and I guess I have some thinking to do. I tell him I am just disengaging. I'll cook and clean like I normally do. But I will NOT go shopping for anything special for his kids again, I will not pick them up their favorite foods when requested at the grocery store, I will cook ONE meal at dinner and if his kids don't like it they can either eat it anyway, go hungry, or he can make them something. I will not do their laundry. I will not ask them if they want to go places with me (which all they do is be disrespectful and have complete strangers look at me and my SO like we are idiots.) When they come over I won't be a totally cold hearted person like ignore them but I will not bend over backwards and be their personal chef, waitress, taxi, ATM either.

I asked SO to back me on this...his reply "okay I will as long as it doesn't affect me." Ummm hello moron! You and the bimbo you procreated with is the cause of why your children are complete animals. Good example....take them out to dinner, the two older girls get into a fight where they are cursing and yelling at each other. I am so freakin embarrassed that I am practically under the table. All he says is "stop it!." What? Drag their asses out to the car and make them sit in it and because I wouldn't trust them in MY car anyway since it's his kids and can go out there and sit with them until I am done eating.

The eldest got in trouble awhile back for sending half naked pictures of herself and she is 13 (before I cam into the picture.) She got her phone taken away and everything else. She turns 14 and her mom not only gives her phone back to her but gives her a brand new one that she can take pictures and text with. This past weekend we find out she has been skipping 7th period to meet a boy. Do you think my SO would say anything? I bring it to his attention tonight and OMG he "claims" he talked to her about it tonight via text (he is working.) BS!!!!! And why in the hell is he even going to her? Go to the freakin school, talk to the BM because I am pretty sure she has no freakin idea she is doing it (even though the eldest doesn't come over here anymore and is with her mom all the time.)

I really really really need to rethink this relationship...Sorry had to vent.

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OK, I would be running from

OK, I would be running from that relationship. It sounds (like a lot of Dads here) that he wants you to pick up the pieces of his broken children and when you can't put them back together into perfectly socially acceptble functioning members of society it will be your fault. The restaurant thing would have had me gone ages ago.

You are soooo right. He is

You are soooo right. He is forever telling me "help me fix my kids." I can't fix his kids...They need reform school or something. You give these kids an inch and they take a freakin yard! I toally blame their father and bimbo mother because she is just as bad if not worse. I don't know what I was even thinking when I got involved in this. I will always say my bio kids are NOT perfect. They act up but they get disciplined and mine have NEVER done half the things his kids have done. They know the wrath they would get from me. His kids better thank God I am not their mother.

His younger daughter who is

His younger daughter who is almost 7 has better manners and will sit and eat at a restaurant. I pray to God this little girl doesn't turn out like her older sisters.

You're not married so while

You're not married so while it may be panful, you could get your own place (or have him move out). You can still see him but you can take a step back from unpaid maid, servant, nanny, etc. Let him deal with the hoodlums.

i did your exact move. i got

i did your exact move. i got fed up and no longer do the skids laundry, i dont cook AT ALL while they're there - i wont even go grocery shopping for the week until they're gone. school breaks suck but i'm not getting them food for them to eat it and not appreciate it - they have a father and as much as i love him and do whatever i can for him - i have drawn the line at his children. hate is a strong word, but i think i've reached it, i do absolutely nothing for them.