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DH, is there something I didn't understand?

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Submitted by 3bk1sd on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:46pm

So in my last post I said that DH finally told SD that she does have to listen to me if she's going to come to our house. She said she would never come back if she had to listen to me. She took all her things to BM's.

Today's conversation...

Me: So DH do you want to go to the usual place on Saturday that we go when the older kids aren't with us or do you want to do something else. (We only will have BD2 all weekend).
DH: Ummm, I don't know yet, maybe. I have to wait and see if SD wants to come this w/e.

Ok, what is he talking about, is he insane? I really do not think she will return. At the very least she won't be coming this weekend. I didn't even say anything to him though, what can I say? I'll just pretend to be surprised tomorrow when he says that she's not coming.

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alwaysanxious's picture

Submitted by alwaysanxious on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 11:12pm

Its wishful thinking. My SO didn't want to consider that his,may not come this weekend either.

ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Fri, 01/14/2011 - 12:03am

I used to hate it when I couldn't map out the weekend. We have 7 between us and if we didn't plan, we were screwed. There was very little money to entertain the kids so we had to be creative. It was so hard....and the dread that lead up to it all...uh, glad that is over!

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Submitted by kimmy77 on Fri, 01/14/2011 - 8:07am

Hes probably hoping SD will change her mind. Im also a planner.. need to plan out my days/ w/e's. I can't stand last minute changes.

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Submitted by 3bk1sd on Fri, 01/14/2011 - 9:43am

DH usually calls SD on Friday mornings before school. I called him at 8:30..

Me: Have you talked to SD today?
DH: Yes, for a minute.
Me: OK, well I was going to take food out of the freezer for supper, do you know if she's coming this weekend?
DH: No, she isn't.

He said it like he was surprised. It was only 5 days ago that she said she was never coming back. I'm sure that's not true but I really think she'll miss the next month or so. I don't see how he could even think she was coming today. My 2 older kids go to their dad's this weekend so it'll just be 3 of us.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Fri, 01/14/2011 - 9:51am

It was a long time before DH could accept she wasn't coming back. It has been 9 months now and they finally saw each other last weekend for dinner. They live in the next subdivision over, it is pathetic. Let him think this way for awhile, he will get there on his own over time...