My DH and I got in a terrible argument a few days ago after he met with SD32 and she admitted that, not only is she knocked up AGAIN (#5), but this time she married the thug! Oh, and she also dropped out of nursing school. I have said on more than one occasion that this convicted crack dealer isn’t welcome in our home so she deflected all the shady crap she’s been pulling off on to me because she doesn’t feel “comfortable” around me since I don’t want anything to do with the “love of her life and husband.” That was her reason for screwing up our Christmas…. She didn’t want to come over because of how I feel about him. Keep in mind folks that she’s the 4th and maybe 5th woman he’s gotten pregnant since his last release from prison less than 3 years ago.

The thing is, my DH is sooo used to taking up the slack with his two worthless offspring that when he and I discussed it, he went totally on the defensive and I ended up being the bad guy! I couldn’t believe it!!! We both lost our tempers and said some mean things. Even though he is a complete enabler, I’m sure he didn’t like hearing me yelling it. I’ve tried to be nice to his kids and guide them as much as I could, but they are so useless I think there isn’t anything they would listen to.

So I told DH that I was done! I am disengaging completely from them. He wasn’t sure what that meant so I explained that they were his kids, his problem. I would not have anything to do with them that I didn’t have to do. If I run in to them at a family event, I would be polite. That’s it. I’m not babysitting, I’m not financially helping them, I’m not going to run out and get gifts for their kids birthdays and Christmas’s, nothing. Or even remind DH when their birthdays are! I also said I was defriending all of his relatives on facebook (even the ones I like) because I refuse to buy in to their drama ever again.
Meanwhile, SS35 put THIS on his facebook page (I’ve since de-friended him):
"I've come to the realization that I wasn't asked if I wanted to be born. It was thrown at me without my permission, so if I make mistakes, if I slip up and ask for help remember, it was you who chose to make me and put me in this world. I do the best that I can and if you see me as a failure, then you as the teacher need to take a look at your mirror and ask that person what kind of job you did raising me. You were not there and responsible in the young years of our youth then don't be the first ones to condemn us. Life is hard but to have the power with ib we need, we need those who raised us to have the guts to step up and say “my best was not good enough” or, “I was so busy trying to keep us fed and clothes on our back, I couldn’t do what I needed to then. But I'm here for you now and if you’re willing to put in the work then there is no boundary to what I will do to help you succeed, because I love you!”
This guy is 35 years old! Have you ever heard anything so whiny and pathetic in your life??? This little shit has the balls to put this in a public forum after his dad has paid his bills, kept him out of jail, bought him more than one car, paid his child support, and loaned him thousands of dollars over the last few years. And that just since I’ve known him!! I’m so furious, I could just spit! The thing is, DH thinks he’s doing soooo much better now and being more responsible. WTF?? I’m at a loss! But this is the last time I am going to feel this way! Sorry this is so long, but I can’t even talk to my DH about these things now. It’s not worth fighting about. So thanks for letting me vent yet again!