My XW was about your age and had nearly ZERO sex drive... at least within our marriage. I turned out that what she enjoyed was dating and could have some sex during the dating phase of a relationship. We had some level intimacy prior to getting married but since she expressed a desire to wait until we were married to have intercourse I honored that wish.

We never got much going as far as intimacy during our 2.5 years of marriage. We had sex 8 times in 2.5 years. I was having that much sex in a week when I met her.

However, she did have sex in a serious of affairs and eventually had several out of wedlock children with the geriatric fortune 500 executive sugar daddy that she left me for.

I suggest seeing a doctor and a therapist. Sex can't make a marriage but it sure can end one in a hurry.

Good luck.

I am 27. I still like to cuddle etc, but like you I have no desire for sex and I too have been wondering if there is something wrong with me. We still have sex, but like you, I give it to him because I know it is something he needs. Of course, I am still attracted to DH and that is the really confusing part. It has nothing to do with him. I am right along with you, so you are not alone.

Sweethoney - I don't think it is medical - you are going through some very stressful shit right now and with what you have to deal with Sex is not going to be the #1 topic on your mind - I find that a lot of people on here get turned off by sex especially when their DH's or boyfriends are being jerks and letting their kids walk all over the SM. Give your self a break and when things start to calm down again I am sure that it will come back.

Definitely STRESS!!! I started panicking before my skids arrived because I knew it would change everything...and it did. I knew how screwed up SD5 was and knew it would be difficult. I think I've posted this before, but if not: I was finishing my Master's, just moved in with FDH to our own place, got promoted (with a huge workload added and no money), had an anxiety disorder to begin with and then the in-laws started coming to visit... My body decided to have a period for about three months and then, when the in-laws showed up, I finally broke out in hives.

Mind you, I have the most understanding, loving, wonderful FDH in the world and he went to great lengths to ensure that I was not only having sex, that I was enjoying it. He went out of his way- during a not-so-lovely time where I was having spotting and hives, to make sure I was feeling sexually desireable. I didn't shave my legs for long periods of time; he told me he loved my furryness. I wouldn't want to have sex; he told me he just liked spooning and cuddling. I didn't want to be hugged or smothered; he rubbed my feet with lotion and my head with his hands.

YOU deserve to have enjoyable sex and if that means writing it out for him how he can make you feel more interested- do it! Or just give him some instructions while in the act. For some reason, lots of men like some direction in bed. I don't know how the heck I found my FDH who does all of this amazing stuff, but you at least need to enjoy some of it- perhaps purchase a pamphlet on foreplay and place it on the bedstand...