Today's Parent
Well today I took my daycare kids to the library and read a great article on teenagers and chores. About how important they are and the consequences if you don't do them. A great article if anyone wants to read it Decembers issue and is exactly what we are struggling with. DH thinks his kids are so busy that we shouldn't push more onto them and I think they are a part of this family and need to help.
Needless to say my point and how I feel was this whole article now my question is it really childish of me to print the article and put it on the kids beds? Is this passive/aggressive behaviour or do I just give it to DH to read and keep being evil step mom who make the kids empty the dishwasher.
- pullmyhairout's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Don't put it on the kids
Don't put it on the kids beds, I think that is a bit passive aggressive, but definitely give it to DH to read, and definitely use the points about the benefits of chores when you are discussing them with the children. Sometimes overly soft Dad's just need an authoritative source to tell them it's not only OK to expect a contribution from their kids, it's actually beneficial for them. It helps counter the little voice in their head saying 'they might not love me and want to stay with me if I make them do jobs' and 'i need to pamper them to make up for BM and I not being together'.
And I totally agree with huntermom - yes they should empty the dishwasher, and yes DH should do it if he won't make them do it. If he wants them to do nothing, that's his choice, but it's up to him to take up the slack for his children.
OMG that little voice is
OMG that little voice is exactly why we are in this situation with the girls. unfortunatly the little voice was in both of our heads for so long, I finally came out of the trance but Dh still hasn't. For us it's not making up for BM and DH not being together but making up for BM being a complete loser and ignoring her great kids.
Put it up on the refrigerator
Put it up on the refrigerator - that is what I used to do when I wanted SS to see something when he lived with us and the point got across to him - I never would say a word to him just put it up on the refrigerator and let him see it.
All right. Thanks. I agree it
All right. Thanks. I agree it seemed a little pa to me. I already told DH about the article and will print it off for him to read. Thanks for the input.