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Dissengaging ABSOLUTELY DOES Work!

halfstepmom2skids's picture

This is update from yesterdays blog where I was terrified how to handle SD's threat to live with mom as another attempt to separate us.

To my complete suprise, DH did not involve me and made it all about her and her behavior. I went to store and that is apparently when he talked to her. He told me on our nightly walk that he told her he knows I am not and have not done anything to her and that he is onto her game and it stops now. He told her she absolutely will not make the decision to be with her mom more and that the arrnagement will stay as it is, 50/50, until he says so.

He told me for the 1st time EVER that he knows she is trying to separate us and he will not let it happen ever again.

I know I owe this to the dissengagement and not giving her any power or manipulation against me. Now the focus is on her 100% and I am not being brought down to her level by getting mad and reacting to her provoking me.

So ladies/gentleman on this site, thank you thank you thank you. I can't thank the people on this site enough for all their support.

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hbell0428's picture

Wonderful; I have been trying to do this as well; nothing BIG has happened; but I have kind of been doing my own thing - just going with whatever dad does and says for her (even if I know he'll pay for it later) it's his decision; things have been nice so far.... Good for you