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step-mommy dearest's picture

ok.. so me and SO are trying to work things out... and i noticed that as soon as we broke up he started getting texts from all kinds of girls.. some from his past that "randomly" text him just "out of the blue"
and some that idk where the hell they came from!!
then i notice that its not just texts, they are writing on his FB wall.. "hey!!!! I havent talked to you in FOREVER! How are you?"

so when i say something to him :
"Its just funny that as soon as we break up all thses girls text you and fb you"

& i get this text back:

"this is what im talking about step-mommy dearest! your like jealous of the world! and everyone is your enemy! just because ppl talk to me you assume im fuckin them or whatever...im not doing this"

what do you think?

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Most Evil's picture

Honey I hope I am wrong but it is too coincidental that all these girls started contacting him, when you broke up? He mostly likely initiated contact with them but is denying it.

I have sympathy for you but believe I remember you are young and may not know that people will lie about things like this! I remember being shocked to learn that myself.

He may not be seeing them but they are not calling out of the blue for no reason. He is maybe also young? and it is very hard for someone so young to be monogamous yet, especially male IMO. And you were 'on a break', to use famous 'Friends' phrase LOL!

I feel for you and hate that we have to learn all these lessons the hard way! but you do seem caring about your stepchild and that is to your credit. I would try to give this time to see which way it goes, but keep your eyes open dear. HUGS

p.s. I hope this does not sound too patronizing as I do not intend it that way - I just wish someone would have told me these kind of things as it hurts to find them out yourself

step-mommy dearest's picture

Thank you! He is driving me nuts!
So i sent one final message to him... then called at&t and blocked his number!

the final message said "Im on the feel good side of leaving and your the backside of a mule!"

kinda childish... but it made me feel better!
me and the bm are friends... so i hope i still get to see SD... but instead of seeing her as her Sm... i will be seeing her as her bm's friend! and have NO contact with X-SO!!

SusiQ's picture

I know that I always get updates when a friend on FB updates their status - to include things like Married, Single or even changing their location. These girls could have gotten one of those and decided to write to him on FB him. Also, people can text me thru my phone from FB and when I text them back it goes out thru my phone.

Just a thought! I'm not saying he didn't contact them and initate the conversation. Just wanted to FYI

step-mommy dearest's picture

UPDATE!!!

Ok so a few nights ago i posted how i simply made a comment about girls randomly texting and callin EX-SO... and he jumped down my throat sayin that just bc he talks to a girl dont mean they are fucking!

WELL! today i see him and a girl in his car... (he just had me come see him at work today for us to talk, it ended with a hug and then he text me and said Im glad i got to see you!) about 2 hrs after seeing him at his work, im leaving the grocery store with my roommate and pull out behind EX-SO! my roomie says "who is with him" i said no one. she said i swear i say a head.. well about that time we go around a curve and i see HAIR! It really made me mad!
so then he starts acting like a dick when i call him out on it! he said we aint together and it dont matter!
I said now it dont! im done!

later tonight i find out who this girl is... she is 18!! JUST turned 18 in AUGUST!!! he will be 30 in NOV!!
i know im only 20.. but there is a big maturity difference in 18 & 20!!
I told him to have fun and good luck!
he said what does that mean? i said youll see!
he kept asking what i meant and finally was like TELL ME! I said nah im good! you made this bed... now go have fun with her in it!

then i find out that bitch was with him saturday night when he was telling me that im just jealous of the world and everyone is my enemy.... well HELLO! he gives me a reason to feel that way!
While he is trying to tell me im crazy for thinking that something is going on he is drinking and back roading with this girl!

BM found out and called me tonight and was like did you know EX was with an 18 yr old. I said yeah! she said y didnt you call me!? I said really its none of my biz anymore... she said well SD4 didnt go with him last weekend bc you wasnt with him. i said thats sad! she said SD wants to see me and I agreed to meet them this weekend. BM was telling me there is no way in hell an 18 yr old who has plans on being a "playmate" for halloween is gonna be around her little girl!

I got in too far over my head with it at 20... how does he expect an 18 yr old to survive? esp since this girl is known for partying all the time! we live in a town of less then 2,000 ppl! you kinda know everyone! and everytime i see her, she has her boobs bout to flop out and is either drinking, has been, or is on her way to be!

Good luck to his dumb ass!