Had it out with BM yesterday
Started as a civil conversation about paying for SD's college next year - DH, BM, myself, and SD's therapist.
Degenerated into a yelling match outside the therapist's office between BM, DH and myself. Well, BM and myself. DH rarely raises his voice, but he did do so a few times. At first I felt bad because I actually said a few things to BM that were mean, and made her cry. And now, as I think about it, I am not proud of myself, but I am also struck by how ignorant BM is. I thought she had changed toward SD. I thought she was learning and trying. She's still the same victim.
All of the frustration I have been feeling lately came out to BM.
I'm too tired to write about it now, but will fill in more over the weekend.
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This is why I wrote that I
This is why I wrote that I was thinking about you yesterday.
Stick - you and DH should pay
Stick - you and DH should pay what you can for his daughter's college - but if you can pay nothing then she needs to get student loans like the rest of the world. We are going through this with SS right now as he is starting to look at schools. Of course he wants to go to one that costs $51,000 a year - we sat him down this summer and told him what we could afford a month - and also prefaced it with barring no one loses their job or some other hardship. He got upset with us because his mom is driving his college fund - she got a $40,000 car and now has no money for SS's education but we are supposed to pick up the slack. I don't think so. My DH is 53 and we are starting to think about retirement and how much we are going to need for that.
College funds are not a guarantee - SS's mom is driving his so that money is out - unless you live in NY and he has to pay through 21 but if not then it should be you and DH deciding what the both of you can pay not all of you and some therapist.
Hi ladies - thanks for the
Hi ladies - thanks for the support!! It's really not what it sounds like. I'm feeling a little less exhausted today, so I'm going to write the blog now...
I know getting into
I know getting into confrontations w/BM here is very exhausting. Hope you have better perspective now.