WAIT MINUTE....
Why is it MY fault that SD11 forgot to take her saxaphone to school today??? Here's what happened. She stayed with us last night. She doesnt normally bring it with her to our house because the bus drops her off at BM's house instead of ours (different school district) and she pratices before DH picks her up (or so she says--you know how that goes!). I didn't even SEE the freaking thing last night or this morning. Today DH's alarm didn't go off and he woke up to MY alarm 90 minutes later AHHHHHHH. AFter stomping around and M-F-ing the world for 20 minutes instead of getting ready and hurrying to work, I threw my hair back and got SD to school JUST in time. She started her period last night and was all worried about getting her purse together with "backups" and I guess she forgot. BUT I DIDN'T KNOW SHE HAD HER FREAKING SAXAPHONE AT OUR HOUSE and I was trying to do the motherly thing and getting her to school on time.
AND WAIT A FREAKING MINUTE--she's 11, she knows she has to take it every day, it is HER habit not MINE to take it......why is this MY fault??????? I've only taken her to school (or used to be daycare) 3 times so it's not like I should have known better......REGARDLESS of the craziness this morning, we have preached and preached to her that it is HER and HER responsibility only to make sure she takes care of that sax and school work, etc, so she should be held responsible.
Emails...
DH: SAX???
ME: UH OK? WHAT ABOUT IT?
DH: SHE DIDN'T HAVE IT WITH HER THIS MORNING
ME: I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS EVEN AT OUR HOUSE!
DH: DON'T WORRY...TODAY WAS TOO CRAZY FOR YOU TO REMEMBER.
ME: HOW CAN I REMEMBER SOMETHING I DIDN'T KNOW TO BEGIN WITH? LOL (trying to be lighthearted about it instead of bitchy)
DH: WELL, GOT THE BITCHY EMAIL FROM HER MOTHER ABOUT IT. SHE'S PISSED YOU FORGOT IT.
ME: WOAH.....IT IS SD'S RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE THAT SAX WITH HER EVERY DAY. NOT MINE, NOT YOURS. YES TODAY WAS CRAZY, BUT BM NEEDS TO HOLD HER DAUGHTER ACCOUNTABLE, NOT ME....
Ahhh....the irony of all this is that I just posted earlier today about how great last night was with her. Honestly I don't think it's SD at the blame game rather than the BM. BUT she needs to learn to be responsible for herself, damnit!!
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I bet SD told her an innocent
I bet SD told her an innocent version of what happened this morning and BM wigged out and blamed me.
DH needs to keep BM's
DH needs to keep BM's comments to himself. All he does is perpetuate drama by telling you she was "pissed you forgot it."
I'm tired of "trying to be lighthearted" with my DH.
Most of the time I just laugh
Most of the time I just laugh hysterically at what she says and immediately point out all of the obvious inaccuracies with her logic. Plus it makes me feel SOOOO much smarter and better about myself to NOT be like HER.
by telling you she was
by telling you she was "pissed you forgot it."
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I am on the fence about this. I don't want anything kept from me. But I also am not going to be the one to deal with any of this kind of crap either. Her DH should have followed up that sentence with the action HE took to put BM in her place.
I can agree with that. If
I can agree with that. If you're gonna tell me what she said to offend me, tell me what you said to DEfend me!! But don't stir up shit just cuz!!
A.G.R.E.E.D. I'll get the
A.G.R.E.E.D.
I'll get the full details at home. I can usually drag more out of him verbally than over eamil. He either 1) didn't respond or 2) didn't want to defend me because that would only further the bitchassness from her end (you only care about her, you don't care about your daughter, you always take her side, blah blah blah). He is under the school of thought that he doesn't owe her an explanation on anything having to do with me (which I kind of agree with, but REALLY want him to put her in her place once in a while hahah).
I'm sorry you feel that way.
I'm sorry you feel that way. The purpose of my post was purely to vent...whether it made sense to others or not. If you will re-read my post, I said that I would get the "real" scoop at home because his emails are usually short and lack vital details. I spoke with him last night and he DID defend me and told BM that she should be THANKING me for getting her to school on time and took the blame for not remembering the sax was in his truck.
"And it is your fault to perpetuate the frustrating drama in your life."
Keep in mind that the people who are posting on this site are looking for SUPPORT and not looking to be torn down by our peers. We get enough of that from being step-mothers. It is an open forum where we can get all of our frustrations out to others who would possibly understand and empathize with the mind-set.....and then go on with our daily lives.
I re-read what I wrote and it
I re-read what I wrote and it sort of sounds like I/we are the responsibility nazis and she MUST remember everything all the time. It's not like that, we're just trying to stress the importance of it. Her mom is not organized at all, has zero structure in her life, and blames everyone else for things she does wrong, so if we don't stress the importance of it all, then she sure as hell wont learn it at her mom's house!