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Submitted by MamaBecky on Sat, 08/28/2010 - 4:18pm

Just got home from the mall with SD13. I took her back to school shopping. She claimed PMS & menstrual cramps/headache the whole time so she was not the most pleasant young lady...yet she managed to pick out 250.00 worth of clothes. Then we leave the mall....and I get no thank you, no I appreciate it...NOTHING. She walks in the door once we get home and dumps the bags of clothes in her room grabs a blanket & a pillow off of her bed, comes out to the living room and flings herself onto the couch. Now I get to sit here with her and watch Wizards of Waverly Place for another hour until I get the distinct pleasure of making her dinner. UGH! I just want a thank you.

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Sat, 08/28/2010 - 4:40pm

She's not in control of the tv....it's just what she put on until she feel asleep...which she has done...so I can change it....it really not about the tv its just that I just spent a cpl hours following her around the mall with my credit card and I didnt get a thank you. I realize that shes not feeling well but I really dont care and I would like a thank you. Grr. It is not acceptable to me...hence why I am online complaining about it. In regards to making her dinner...well I'm making dinner for all of us and I dont think the rest of us want cereal for dinner. LOL I'm going to see if she wakes up if she has her personality back....if I still dont get a thank you her dad will have to talk to her later. I wont let it go but I pick my battles....the reprimand for rudeness/ungratefulness has to come from him so I'm not saying a word to her...hence why I'm on here complaining. LOL I am confident I will get my thank you by the end of the night....even if its daddy induced. hehe.

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Sat, 08/28/2010 - 4:59pm

Thanks, and were having breakfast for dinner...it's one of her favorites but we all enjoy - french toast, eggs, breakfast potatoes, bacon, sausage, toast. OK I'm hungry now. Smile

I love SD13 and for the most part think she's great but she has been taught from her mom that her dad (and by default I)owe her because of time in the past dad spent away from her. (totally by BM's doing but SD13 doesn't get it yet) So teaching her that she is not owed things and that she should be appreciative and grateful for what I provide has been the one aspect of our relationship that annoys me. We have been through this with her before and then for a few months she will thank me for everything..., make her dinner, do her laundry, everyday tasks that moms/step-moms do....to the point it's annoying and I have to tell her..."You don't have to thank me for the things I do as your step-mom. That's my role in your life and when your in my house I don't mind doing the mom "jobs" BUT when I do extra like buy you nice things that aren't required, take you to a movie, etc. then I expect a thank you". For some reason she just doesn't get it. She was better for awhile and the last few times....not so much, so as I said I guess dad will have to talk to her again. It's hard to battle years of BM teaching her to feel entitled but I wont give up. So frustrating though!