I'm wondering if SD5 may be a little on the slow side...or possibly mildly FAS...or SOMETHING. She seems very awkward in her undersatnding of things, slow to make connections. Besides her neediness, lack of boundaries, quick temper with BD4, over dependence on H (and adults in general), how she makes dramatic faces when she talks, uses odd voices often, and whining, there is something off about her that I can't quite put my finger on.

A recent example of what I mean by off is: Me, H, and BS were playing monkey in the middle with SD and BD as the monkeys. If I had the ball and the girls were looking at me and then I threw it to BS or H, BD would jump with her hands up to try and grab it then turn to the person who now had it. SD would often forget to put her hands up and need to be reminded, she'd lift up onto her toes a bit but not jump and do an odd little clap over her head but not really seem to understand that she should be trying to grab the ball. After the ball was tossed she would still be standing there looking at the person who threw it instead of turning to who had it now. A few times she would realize she needed to turn but often she needed to be told. We played for 20-30 minutes and by the end she still was still doing that. At one point she started whining about wanting someone to throw it to her and H started tossing it in the middle of them and she still couldn't get it, almost like she couldn't follow where it went very quickly. Eventually H got on the floor with her on his shoulders and she was just happy to have herself wrapped around H's head that the one time she did catch it (because I threw it right to her...ok so it actually kinda hit her face and rolled down into her hands but she DID get it lol) she no longer wanted to throw, just sit on H's head and try in her wierd way to catch the ball.

That's one example of off but I've noticed little things like that about her and I'm certain there is something there that's not quite right but I just can't place it. I don't know if this is reltted but once when we took the kids swimming and got them home I had the girls in the shower while trying to scrub the sand out of their hair and I noticed that she had a very odd shaped head. I had always just thought it was the way her hair hung until then but it sort of has a mushroom-like bulge on the top.

Anyway, if anyone has any ideas or thoughts I'd be very interested to hear them.