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I think another marriage just bit the dust......

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 10:35am

I made the mistake last night of answering DH's question "What is wrong?" Instead of saying nothing, never mind, I'll get over it....I told him what was bothering me.

I got my ass handed to me, DH nailed himself to a cross and played martyr. Apparently I'm a selfish, grasping bitch and all I care about is myself. He said he's tired of my attitude and we should just end the marriage.

Yesterday was our third anniversary. I was annoyed because he shopped early yesterday morning and I stupidly assumed that instead of waiting until the weekend (his kid is here this week), that he had planned something special for dinner last night. From my perspective, his dinner purchases looked intimate. When I found out he included his teenage daughter, and then later one of her friends in our dinner plans, I felt let down. Then he asked me what was wrong.......

I'm seriously done. I have put my own life on hold for the last three years. I've been drug through the mud, been called names, had my personal belongings destroyed by his child and now I'm the most selfish bitch in the world because I wanted to have dinner alone with my husband on our anniversary. I've had enough and apparently so has he.

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pat's picture

Submitted by pat on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 10:46am

I think you both need some time alone. If he truly loves you and you truly love him, there might be hope still left for you. (HUGS)

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 3:04pm

He is stupid. Of course you should celebrate your anniversary alone. It is what couples do. You don't have to celebrate that night, but he should make plans to do something special, even if it is just dinner.

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Submitted by Rainbow.Bright on Wed, 08/25/2010 - 6:53pm

Why do people always throw out the D word? Even if they don't use the D word, they throw out something that means the same thing "Maybe we shouldn't be married" or whatever variation.

It's manipulation. It's a child having a temper tantrum and using marriage as leverage to get their way. This is totally unacceptable and I think is the biggest mistake someone can make in a marriage. I take it very seriously, I don't know about anyone else.

But, if you have been looking to get out or really questioning whether this is the life you want, he just gave you an EASY out. I know so many marriages that ended because one person was sick and tired of the other one trying to manipulate them through using the Divorce word. Utter stupidity and immaturity in my opinion. Although, he doesn't sound like the brightest bulb in the pack, who the hell wants to celebrate their anniversary with a kid and their FRIEND?

Good luck girl!