My SS7 was sexually abused by another young child in December of 2009 while in FL where he lives with his mother. My husband and I live in NC and only get him for 2 weeks every Christmas, 1 week during his Spring Break, and just recently for this whole Summer. My husband was never married to BM and there are no custody papers or anything established as they have never been to court at all.

When the sexual abuse happened my SS7 told his mother that night while she was putting him to bed. She called DSS around 2am and they came out to work the case. He was then referred to a counselor who his mother claims "decided no futher counseling was needed." The sexual abuse was due to bad decision making on her part. Instead of paying for after-school care with the hefty un-court ordered child support that my husband sends every month, she allowed him to get off the school bus every day at one of her friend's houses. My SS7 happened to wander to the next street over with some older kids, age 9 being the oldest, and was playing in a tree house with some other little boys. One thing led to another and my SS7 sais they took turns putting their private parts in each other's mouths. In return the little boy gave him a video game he wanted.

I must explain to all of you that my husband takes no action whatsoever when it comes to taking care of his child other than paying child support and paying for the airline tickets for him to fly to visit with us. I buy all of his clothes, shoes, school supplies, etc. I take care of him exactly as I would if he was my own, other than the fact that BM hates my guts because she thinks I "know it all and make her out to be a bad mother." This is far from the truth, I help her with his school registration, baseball registration, allergy medication, etc. She always wants my help when it is convenient for her but when I try to suggest something she doesn't like she says I am sticking my nose in where it does not belong.

Now to my plea for help....during this summer my stepson has talked about what happened to him and told us that "the stuff never leaves his head." He has asked me if it is alright if he likes boys. He said he didn't like a technique they were teaching him in karate because he felt like the other boys were looking at his private parts. He says that he can't talk to his mom because she will be mad at him. I have recently been talking to her about him seeing a counselor or a a psychologist and she has flew the cookoo nest about this. She says I need to mind my own business and stay out of it. I told her that I have a 9 year old daughter that I have to protect and if he is going to be a part of my life then I will take matters into my own hands if need be. He is scheduled to fly back to FL this coming Saturday so now is the time when I need your opinions and advice because our time with him is running out. Do I have the right to contact the Department of Child Protective Services here in NC where we live and where he currently is right now? OR am I supposed to wait until he goes home and contact them in FL in his county? Do I contact them in his county before he goes home? His mother thinks he needs no help at all.

SS7 has also told us that his mother has made him pee in a cup for her and she claims this is a total lie. He pees in his pants but not when sleeping. He picks his nose and eats it. He does not want to play with other children. He tells his father and I that he does not want to go home to FL and to please let him stay here. He cries to his mother on the phone and begs to live here with us and she tells him he can decide when he is 12.

Someone please give me some good advice because I feel like I NEED to do something now! My husband says it will all work itself out if I would just be more patient. He will not do anything about it. Is it my place to do something? Please help me.