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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 9:59am

DH who has wanted to blame me for everything basically admitted that he knew what his son was doing. DH said "if you leave, SS will win and Im afraid he will do this again to someone else" DING DING DING, bells must have went off in his head finally!!! I looked at him and said "if he is going to do this to someone else, how is everything MY fault?" He couldn't answer me. I think DH finally realizes and I hope things change, I just won't be here to enjoy those changes. It really sucks because DH and I have kind of reconnected by being separated, but I know it won't work and nothing will change. I just hope it does for their sake. I feel that if DH and I were meant to be together, we will be, whether I move out, or whether he moves on, if its meant to be, it will be. Things happen for a reason. I just can't pass up this opportunity on this apartment I will have on Aug 1st. Depressed, Happy, Excited, Anxious, and Nervous at the same time.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:11am

Sounds like you've given him some things to really think about & consider in all that has gone on. I hope he'll do what needs to be done to get some help for his son. Best of luck to you with your new apartment. At least now there's some happy & excited mixed in with the rest of it. You have good things coming for you. Smile

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Submitted by stepkate on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:51am

Wait, what?

"SS will win!"? Is DH battling his son (and losing, it sounds like)?
"He'll do this again to someone else"? He's already thinking of his next girlfriend, and wants you to fix his problem (SS) for him?

Too many things wrong in those few words.

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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 12:08pm

Yes, SS is in complete control, isn't that how its supposed to be?

There are too many things wrong with the whole situation. DH is a dumb @$$. Every day is a battle with SS, and yes, both of his parents are losing. I don't think DH is thinking of his next girlfriend. I think he just realized that I wasn't the one at fault (he blamed everything on me). I think he realizes this is going to happen with anyone because of the way his son acts.

The whole thing just really sucks. Sad

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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 12:09pm

I give it a year and SS will either be shipped back to BM or given to DH's Mother. Its a sad thing for all involved. DH is at a loss. I tried to help but I was the mean evil stepparent that was there just to hate his kid. At least we are past that now.

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Submitted by sm27 on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 12:23pm

"farmed off", lmao; crayon, you should write a book or something. You have such a way with words that whatever I'm going through, you write something that makes me crack up!!

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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 1:13pm

lol. farmed off. Dh has said that if we could afford it, SS would have already been in boarding school. too bad we couldn't afford it.

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Submitted by sm27 on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 12:24pm

Hey Pantera,

At least he started seeing the light before you left. I feel the same way, am going through something similar regarding moving out. I, too, hope that SO can "get it" and change, but I have to be prepared in case he doesn't.

(((HUGS)))

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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 1:12pm

I just keep thinking about how good it will feel on that first Saturday when I wake up, my apartment is clean and I have not 1 thing to worry about.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 3:30pm

I think there is something going on with the bells...they have been ringing for several of the DH's on here including my BF (maybe). Gotta love the bells!!! Good luck to you Pantera...who knows maybe you and DH can still maintain a friendship and maybe if things change and he wakes up then you can start over Smile