Yes, my husband knows about this site. He doesn't have any problem with it. Sometimes I even bounce stuff off him with regard to a topic that catches my interest here to get his take on it.

This makes no sense to me. how can anything get fixed if you (generally) don't tell your SOs what is bothering you in order to fix it? What good is venting without anyway of getting resolution to the problem?

DH would rather I vent about this stuff to complete strangers then our friends. Sometimes I even say things like "everyone on steptalk says...", he doesn't mind. -M

Yes, and he's fully supportive.

Yes he knows.

I'm not sure what he thinks of it. I used to go to one where BMs ruled and if you weren't the type who worshiped BM and catered to her every whim you were the devil himself, according to them. That one he called a waste of time. I think his exact words were something along the lines of 'a congregation of illiterate imbeciles'.

He reads this one when I point something out to him and I think he has a much better opinion of this one. At least most of the people here can form a coherent sentence and know how to use a spell checker.

Lol. He is cuddling me now while I type this- he is watching TV.

My DH is the most sensitive, brooding, paranoid person I’ve ever met as far as my general happiness and my attitude towards our marriage, relocation and how his children fit into my life is concerned.

If I even “attempt” any kind of discussion in the negative as far as any of the above is concerned he brings out his “woe is me stick” and beats it into the earth so bad I’m just sorry I even brought it up. No matter what I do he’s dissecting it to see if there’s any cracks forming around the delicate little egg that is my involvement with these kids.

“Is she unhappy…”
“Does she think she made the wrong decision being with me…”
“Does she hate the kids and her new roll as a caretaker..”

I see these and a million more swirling around his head every day and no matter what I say to the contrary, he’s a big ball of paranoia about it! And if I told him that I was online “venting” about my feelings in any way about our marriage or his kids he would loose his mind! He’d want to see everything I’d ever written and then discuss at length what I’d meant by it and yadda yadda yadda until I’d be ready to put a shotgun to my skull!

So no… it doesn’t come up!
*winks*

It’s also why I count on this place so heavily… I have absolutely no other outlet to vent my feelings and frustrations. Friends and family tend to take the “you knew in advance what you’d be getting yourself into” rout and my DH just can’t handle it.

my fdh knows I read stepparenting sites... He doesn't know I post on here. He would want to read it all and discuss it to death too. I write things here I cant tell him... And that's OK. That's just compromising the way you do in every relationship. But he also would take it the wrong way, and think I was unhappy.

Yes, I just tell him I belong to a website for stepparents. Sometimes I bring up things from here and we discuss hot topics that have been brought up. We discuss whether or not something BM has done is PAS. Sometimes I fill him in on cases I've gleaned from here that are much worse than our situation.

It doesn't seem to bother him at all. I for the most part am not here badmouthing him or his kids - I might have an ancedote that doesn't paint them in the best light, but that's typical parent/kid/marriage stuff. There's nothing on here I would mind him reading.

Yes, SO knows, but we don't discuss much of anything related to this site. I will bring it up from time to time and he just listens.