DH asked me what I wanted and then bought the total opposite, lol.

we looked together, I picked out 4 styles I loved and he chose from those along with him deciding what size stone to put in it.

she has seen it, I saw her look but refuses to acknowledge it. SD mentioned how much "bigger it is than mommy's was!"...I got a silent chuckle out of that comment.

I did pick my ring. I haven't seen BM since I got it, but she did send me a FB message asking me to post our wedding pics so the skids could see them. I guess she didn't want me to think she was being nosey.

I made our wedding album public for a day so they could see them. I'm certain there wasn't one decent comment amongst them, but I don't care. There are 8 or 9 close-up shots of our rings. We got a helluva deal on them, so I was able to get a much nicer one than I would've had we had to pay full price. I'm certain BM explained to the skids that my ring is the reason DH hasn't been able to buy them extra gifts, & I'm sure she let them know that had he not spent that money on me they would have unicorns & dragons to ride on. Like everything else, if it weren't for me, they would have those things.

As far as comments from BM? Nah.

BF wants me to pick the ring. I'd rather him pick it out, but realistically, he probably won't get one I like. It'd be like me picking out the sump pump.

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I sort of picked hers without much in the way of direction. I had my mind set on princess cut because I call her Princess.

I have to admit that I put a deposit on the ring even though her divorce wasn't final. 2.04 carat princess cut VS2 / E, with two .75 carat princess cut side diamonds, and 4 other channel cut princess diamonds. That was a 500 dollar deposit in the shitter. I planned on paying it off over the next few months and giving it to her when we went on our next cruise in November. Glad I didn't pay the whole 16k

And by the way, as a man, there is NOTHING in the world cooler than shopping for and buying a big ass eye-popping diamond for your girl. Makes you feel like Superman.

Mine asked me a bit about what I liked in advance I told him I held Rita Rudner's philosophy I don't want something around my neck that's worth more than my head.

I also hated diamonds that could get caught on anything, so he bought me a much bigger diamond than I would have chosen for myself set in a sloped setting so it couldn't get caught on anything. BM wouldn't dare say a word about it, my ring cost 5xs more than hers did, never mind my wedding band.

We looked at styles, gem cuts, metals online and picked out a few that we liked before shopping. We did go look together and found one setting that was absolutely gorgeous and fit well with the stone shape I liked; DH loved it too. He didn't want me to hear how much he was spending on it so he and the saleslady jokingly sent me away for awhile while they talked about some of his options for his price range... or at least that's what I was told they were doing. Really, he was putting a down payment on it and getting the paperwork filled out.

BM's never said anything about the ring, per se, and I've never paid attention to see if she even looks at it, but she did send us both a "Congratulations!" when we updated our FB relationship statuses, which I thought was nice of her.

DH's 9 year old girl told me she thought it was very pretty,

My XW and I picked the stone and setting together. She actually kept it and wears it as her engagement/wedding ring with her second husband. :?

I had my wedding ring from my first marriage melted down and made in to a different ring.

I picked out both engagment and wedding rings I have given to my wife. She loves them both and won't get rid of the original rings I gave her.

But, I was trained on jewelry by the queen. My mom is big time in to jewelry and dragged me to more jewelry stores and diamond grading classes than I can count.

Best regards.

Future DH and I had it made using stones from my family, he is going through bankruptcy after his divorce to Craziness and I didn't want him to spend too much on a ring (maybe in a few years.) He bought me the setting and i truly love it. The center diamond is not huge but it was my mom's engagement ring stone and she and my dad have been married for 20+ years so I hope it gives us another 50+.

BM has not seen it up close but she asked her daughter to ask me how much it cost :jawdrop: She is a nut!!! Thanks for the interesting post

My current husband sold all of our 1st marriage rings and used it to buy our new ones.