I just wanna spit.
I am so angry at DH right now. Why is he such a bad father?
SS 17 met a girl at camp 5 days ago. It ends up that she lives in our town and she is almost 16 years old. SS got back 2 days ago and the first night he was home he went to her house and came home at 1:00AM. Supposed to be 12 but not my kid so I don’t care what time he gets in.
BUT…last night SS ask if she can come to our house at 9:30PM. We go to sleep at 9:00. DH told him sure. But if you go to your bedroom you have to keep the door open. (I told DH this was stupid and they should not be allowed in there at all if we are asleep) As usual, he does not listen.
I get up about 10 minutes after I hear them come in and they are in his bedroom with the door closed. I wake DH up and tell him that the door is shut. He goes and knocks on it and tells them to go to the living room now. Then he comes back and goes right back to sleep. I checked and they did make it to the living room, but DH never even checked. I have soooo many issues with this.
1). No one knows this girl. She is a stranger and being allowed in our house after we are in bed.
2). SS has only known her for 5 days and DH is letting them act like they have been together for years.
3). What the hell is this girls mom thinking!? I would never let my 15-16 year old daughter be hanging out at some random guys house until 12-1:00AM.
4). I don’t want them having sex in my house. I am just so grossed out over it.
I just asked DH if he talked to SS about the closed door and he said…”SS said he closed it because he had the music up a little loud” What a load of BS.
Would you feel the same way, or would you let your child bring over someone they have only known for 5 days and take the opposite sex to their bedroom after you are asleep.
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We were never allowed to have
We were never allowed to have the opposite sex in our bedrooms. EVER!!! I moved out at 21, and I still couldn't have a guy in my room.
Our rules when we were
Our rules when we were kids:
1. No girls over after bedtime. This was usually 10 p.m.
2. No girls in your bedroom unless the door was open. Also if they couldn't hear us talking it was straight out into the living room, pronto.
3. No girls in the bedroom, period, that our parents did not know well.
I'm on your side on all these issues.
i completely agree with you!
i completely agree with you! No way in HELL that would happen in my house. I often wonder why men are so much more permissive when it comes to their boys. I bet he wouldn't be allowing that if he had a daughter!
Men are so clueless. I often
Men are so clueless. I often have to ask BF "What were you doing at 16?" Answer: Hooking school to sneak girls over to smoke, drink and screw. Exactly why he had his daughter at the age of 18, knocked the mom up right before he left for college. He acts like his BD15 is an angel and would never do anything even though we found XXX pics she'd taken of herself on her cell phone last year, and found out from her little sister that she had a boy over and was making out with him (before we all moved in together) Its like they have kids and their brain cells die. I was a good kid, honor roll, played sports and worked pt on the weekends but I still found time to sneak around with my boyfriend, So I'm on to his little angel. MEN! Not the brightest creatures.
No kids of opposite sex in
No kids of opposite sex in bedrooms. That's the rule in our house!
And we go one step further, too...
Last night, my BS (almost 17) had his girlfriend of 3 months over the house (she's 15). They wanted to watch a movie in our "playroom," which is a room we converted from 2 bays of our garage for the kids. It's off the laundry room, and also has a door for privacy.
Well, BS thought he found a "loophole" in the house rule and went to close the door so he and girlfriend could have some "alone time!"
"Oh I don't THINK so, BS!" I said to him.
He protested adamantly, but of course I won this one, because I don't care to be a GRANDMOM at age 43, nor do I think HER parents would appreciate it either
Hey, kids are kids, with RAGING hormones, and you have to be right on top of things for their own protection- because their brains aren't working yet!
Just smile and tell your DH
Just smile and tell your DH this "Remember when you were 17? What were you thinking about all the time?"
Lay down the law ... no unknown guests in your home after 8:30pm. This is your home as well. This girl is a minor and not only could your s/son become a sex offender (after having sex with her) you may well go down for aiding and abetting the crime.