This child will not be quiet....she feels that she has to talk every second of every hour, of every day!! It's always about her...She interrupts, she's loud and gets louder if you're not paying attention to her at that very moment. My BF and I include ALL the kids in about everything we do, we don't want them to feel excluded but there comes a time when it's just 'adult stuff'(topic of conversations...etc.) She wants to know EVERYTHING!! She could be in another room and if she didn't quite get what you said, she comes over and asks 'what?, what did you say?'
We're all trying to watch a movie and she starts moving around and talking....we tell her to settle down and she's back at it again 30 seconds later. You ask her to do something, I asked her the other day to take her glass to the sink and rinse it(she left it on the coffee table) because we just had smoothies. The kitchen is maybe 10ft away...she just took it to the sink and didn't rinse it. The BF has asked her to stuff as well and she only does half of what she's told.
We both have talked to her about respecting others, their boundaries, their time and their wishes.....I enforce it and the BF enforces it as well.
I honestly don't know what to do with this child anymore....it's like she lacks respect. She was cuddling with dad the other day and I don't exactly remember what she was doing...poking his face or something like that, he told her to stop 3 times....I finally stepped in and said to her "Your father asked you to stop three times and you need to stop now! When you don't listen to your father, that's being disrespectful" She stopped after that but ...really?!...does it need to come to that.
My son can't stand to be around her...he tells me all the time how annoying she is and how much of a spaz she can be. I tell him that everyone is different and alot of her behavior isn't really her fault. Her parents allowed her to be like that...Oh, I didn't mention that she is a total drama queen....she stubs her toe and the whole neighborhood knows. It's hard for me to continue telling my son to be nice to her and tolerate her when I can barely stand her myself sometimes.
I feel really bad because she always wants to do stuff with me. I've corrected her myself when it's just the two of us. I think I mostly feel frustrated because she's 9 and old enough to already know this stuff, and I didn't have these issues with my son.
Does anyone have any advice or have a similar experience to share?