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lastchance's picture

BM sent me a picture message today of SD5's two adult teeth that are now coming in, saying "We don't have dental". In the picture the teeth are MAJORLY crooked/leaning in (they're right next to each other).

My response: "They might straighten out when she looses her other baby teeth and there's more room, otherwise, sucks for you!"
--BM's message forwarded to DH.

Ha ha BM. You will receive no pity or support from me anymore! Jerk.

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LMR120's picture

Can I ask you why she sent it to you? Why would you have to worry about it? Isnt that something that your DH and her should be talking about? Isnt insurance covered in the divorce paperwork?

lastchance's picture

She sent it to me because she thinks I'm a sucker. DH and BM were never married so no divorce paperwork. CS paperwork states that both should provide insurance coverage whenever available. Neither DH or BM are working now, although I don't know BM to have ever worked.

LMR120's picture

I guess what I am saying is why are you guys to the point that she feels she can contact you about this stuff. What makes her think you are a sucker. My BFs BM would never call me about anything having to do with the kids

lastchance's picture

She has manipulated me in the past. Last summer she said she needed money for food. She had no food in the house and her husband "accidentally" took the bank card with him to national guard training stuff for the weekend. They were fighting at the time, so she made it sound like it was on purpose. Anyways, I sent her a little money, even though everyone in DH's family was telling me not to. I found out a few months later that BM's husband's family was bringing them food every week!

She has, in the past, only dealt with me because DH and BM HATE each other...well, mostly DH hating BM. I was the "go-between", but have recently relinquished my duties to DH, as they should be.

LMR120's picture

Im not trying to be rude but I dont think she should be calling you at all. I understand that your DH wants you to help out because he hates his BM but its his BM not yours and I dont hink you should be talking to her on his behlaf. I agree with you not being the go between anymore. Its not healthy and its just going to stress you out. I would not take her calls and I would not respond to her txt I wouldnt even forward them to DH.

lastchance's picture

CS order only states that both need to provide insurance for SD when available. It does not address extraneous expenses, like braces.

lastchance's picture

and it's funny because she will never take us to court because she is afraid of the reprecussions! She has felony warrants in our state that she ran away from, open case(s) with CPS, AND has rarely, if ever worked.

sweetthing's picture

How did you think she would react to that last part? I would be pretty pissed if I got that type of response too.

lastchance's picture

I don't really care how she will react to anything I send her anymore. She only sent that picture to try to manipulate me. She only sends pictures of SD when she wants something. BUT, saying that both BM and myself are pretty sarcastic people. This is pretty par for the course.

sweetthing's picture

I am not sarcastic so to me that type of response would set me off. SS12's front teeth came in like that too. BM had braces on him by age 9 ( when she had her's put on at the same time..they went through it together how sweet) we were pushing to wait as the biggest issue was that his teeth were too big for his mouth, he ended up with a pallet expander & such BS prior to the braces. He has only now lost his insissors & I am praying they grow in strait so he doesn't get braces again. She has also started talk of braces with SS10 whose teeth are only slightly crooked & Dh put the kabosh on that for now.

As much as it sucks braces are not something everyone can afford for their kids, especially in this economic downturn. I would just ignore anything & defer it to your husband to deal with. Why piss off the skunk. Don't get me wrong I get my two cents in on things through my husband, but I never do it directly through BM.. and I actually have a cordial relationship with our BM.

lastchance's picture

Yup! Sounds like a stunt our BM would pull. BM has asked me for money so they could pay for SD's preschool (it's only $25 a month for pete's sake). I couldn't at the time because it was right before pay day and I'm glad. I later found out that she spends a gang of money every month to Rent-a-center for brand new furniture, Wii, flat screen TV, dishwasher, washer/dryer. If they have enough money for all of that crap, I think she has enough money to send SD to school!!!

lastchance's picture

In all reality I will probably add SD to my dental/vision during the next open enrollment period because it is only an extra $20ish a month for her to be covered, but my dental insurance does not cover orthodontics.

lastchance's picture

Oh yes...I am hella good at keeping track of our financials! She will not get anything more out of me than absolutely necessary. It actually kind of makes me sad because I want to be giving and I LIKE helping people, BUT I don't want to be used either. Isn't 8 young for braces?

stormabruin's picture

"Isn't 8 young for braces?"
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I was thinking the same thing. My parents had braces on me as soon as the orthodontist recommended it...at 11 or 12.