He Finally Called Back...He Did Call Her A Dumbass
So he finally called me back a minute ago. He admitted to calling her a dumbass in front of her friends. Of course he had all kinds of excuses as to why it was okay but in my mind its NEVER okay to talk to a child like that. I asked him how he would feel if I called his kids a dumbass and he didnt have a response. SHOCKER! Im so upset right now that I dont even want to see him tonight!
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Get a pillow. Pretend it's
Get a pillow. Pretend it's him. Beat the living snot out of it.
Go home. Use same tactics with husband as with pillow.
Just kidding. I'm sorry for this stresser. It really is never okay to call kids names, especially when they are trying to figure out who they are!
What on earth could his
What on earth could his excuse have been??
I have very few deal breakers, but this might be one of them.
His excuse was..."Her friends
His excuse was..."Her friends were ready to go and she wasnt...and they waited for a long time!" And one time I told her that she was being bitchy so he should be able to call her shes a dumbass! I still dont know what to do. Im seriously thinking of telling him to hit the road!!!
That just doesn't make sense.
That just doesn't make sense. What happened that made him even think of saying that to her? What were his excuses? Thats unacceptable.
What were some of his
What were some of his reasons? Did he think he was being clever? Did he think it was funny? He just needs to understand he can't do that even kidding around. It'd be really big of him if he would apologize to her for hurting her feelings..
No he admitted that he was
No he admitted that he was pissed off...he wasnt joking at all!
oh hell, that puts a whole
oh hell, that puts a whole new spin on it. I'd be livid. I don't know how I'd handle that. That's borderline emotional abusive in my book. wow. I am so sorry.
Your DH needs to understand
Your DH needs to understand the impact of his words. He needs to apologize to your daughter and to you. He is the adult and he acted like the teenager.
Like I said in my earlier response, verbal abuse is serious and its impact can last for years. Do what you need to do to protect your child.
Is he even apologetic at
Is he even apologetic at all??!!
What is wrong with that man? Why was he mad to start with? How is your daughter taking this mess. Poor thing.
My daughter called me and
My daughter called me and said that he sent her a text message and apologized telling her that "he didnt mean it like that" but only after I called him and chewed him out. He wasnt apologetic on the phone with me. He even went as far as to use a time that I told her she was being bitchy as an excuse for him to call her a dumbass! My daughter is really upset/mad. She was crying at first, said she never wants to talk to him again, etc.
If DH or anyone else ever
If DH or anyone else ever called the SDs a dumba$$ or any other derogatory name, they would be out the door quicker than Tinkerbell moves her wand. DH would have some time to think about his behavior while in a hotel room, or at a friend's house. I was called derogatory names by my SM as a kid. I have no tolerance for that.
Crystal, a text apology is
Crystal, a text apology is not good enough.
IMO - it needs to be face to face.