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DH what a pain in the ass!

BurnedOut's picture

First of all let me say that I hope this is a place where I can vent about DH getting on my nerves as well as SS. We had this huge argument because I went to my cousin's birthday party. Every time I go out he calls me 50 million times and wants to pop up where ever I am. When he leaves the house I could care less about where he is or what he is doing. It was so intense that I told him I wanted a divorce. We argued for about 3 1/2 hrs until I finally needed to go to sleep. I'm not sure if he thought I was joking because he had been drinking but I was dead serious.
He was so furious he put a hole in the wall by slamming the door against the wall. Then he starts to talk about how I'll never take the kids from him. He would make them want to be with him. The first thing I'm thinking is where the hell are you going to live. DH has done some shit to me that I just can't get over. I know that he won't be easy to get rid off. I keep praying that GOD will just remove this crap bag from my life. If I had known he was anything like this and allof this DRAMA would arise I would have never gotten married. I guess you live and learn. I'll never do this again, FREEDOM IS PRECIOUS !!!!

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soverysad's picture

Forgive me for saying this but your dh sounds one step short of physical abuse. He shows all the signs and the threats of taking your kids are not a good sign. Please protect yourself and your children.

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BurnedOut's picture

I would be lieing if I said we never fought but I am not scared of him. If I have to fight him I will. When I really get mad I can be sort of out of control myself. At the end of the day I just don't want my children growing up in a household where there is arguing going on all the time and no signs of love. I am so miserable. I'm to the point I struggle everyday just to maintain my sanity.

BurnedOut's picture

I don'y have a plan yet. I am due to deploy in a few months and I definatly need him to take care of his children for the year that I'm gone. Maybe once again that will give him time to see tha I make this shit easy for him. When I come back if he isn't willing to change his ways then I'll start the divorce process and screw the consequences.

BurnedOut's picture

He may sound like a psycho but he would never hurt his kids. Once again I am not scared of him and when I reach my breaking point nothing he says or does will stop me from leaving his ass.

onehappygirl's picture

Sounds exactly like my ex-husband. He would go anywhere he wanted and tell me it was none of my business (nor did I really care where he was), but if I went to the grocery store without him or visited my parents, he was calling me a million times and pissed off when I got home.

He would do the same thing, throw things, slam doors, punch stuff. He would scream at me that I would never take his kids, blah, blah, blah.

Well, one day, he finally hit me, and I took off - with the kids. Does he want them now? No. He sees them on his legally required visits but no more than that.

Your husband is abusive and all talk.
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spacecop's picture

We tend to judge others by our own standard. If you are the type of person who cheats then you assume your partner is as well. Someone who always wonders what you are doing when you are not with them does things they do not want you to know about when they are away.

BurnedOut's picture

I figured that out years ago. No matter what he does I take my vows seriously. Just because he wants to be a male whore I refuse to be a slut. As my mom says "GOD doesn't like ugly and he isn't that crazy about pretty". He will get exactly what he has coming to him.