I tried to disengage, but now it is probably too late. My SD14 decided that since she is now 14 she and mom have been researching for her to choose where she lives. There is a long story to this. I will try and be somewhat brief. She and her mom have been lying to my husband about several issues. Apparently she has been dating a boy for the last few months She has been told countless times no dating until 16. Mom told her to not tell her Dad. We found out and all hell has broken loose. She was with a friend for Spring Break and came home and told this to her Dad. She left this morning for school with a very full back pack. Today after school they would go to their moms for the 50/50 split. I don't think she has any intention of living here again. She is not back until next monday. My husband grounded her and wouldn't let her use the phone the rest of the weekend, for the original lie. Then to her room for being so mouthy about now being 14 and can decide where she lives. Has anyone heard of this that now because she is 14 the custody can be changed. DH is willing to fight this. He knows that if we leave her with the BM that she will not have any rules or guidance. The SK's of the BM have been expelled from the High School. This is not the environment she should be in full time.

I am just sick here from all of this. My DH is miserable, can't even talk to her. I told her yesterday in passing that I was disappointed she lied to me. She said she didn't care. I told her that was a shame. THat is it. One conversation all day except to ask for Cough Syrup because she didn't feel good. My DH had none. She is so sure she is 14 and that is some magical age. She wants to live with mom and for the first time just told him. She and mom have been talking all week. We are sure that they have been plotting this.

There is a lot more to this, but I am too busy to write. Let's just say that the BM SD17 passed out at the HS in January and was expelled. My son was dragged into it by my SS needing to talk to someone and asked him not to tell. It goes on that I after speaking to the BM 2 times in 5 years, went off and wrote a detailed letter. She went off because I indicated that I didn't want to communicate with her, but I wanted to tell her my feelings on her lies involving my child. DH read the letter and edited it. This is just escalating and DH and I have done nothing wrong except try to have rules. It is a bunch of bull that children crave rules and structure. Apparently not.