adult conversations
when dh and i are talking (about anything) sd5 or ss7 immediately gloms on to the conversation, interrupting, asking detailed questions about what/who we are discussing and often derailing it. dh provides them with detailed explanations about what we are discussing, why, etc. these conversations are usually incredibly boring and practical, along the lines of this:
me: "should we try the new gas station down the road and see if it is cheaper?"
dh: "yeah, ok"
ss7: "WHY are we trying the new gas station?"
ss5: "what does down the road mean? when can we go home? are we there yet?"
dh: "well, kids, the new gas station may be a better option because it is closer and the prices seemed cheaper. this is how gas stations make money: there is an organization called OFAC (etc)"
skids: riveted.
me: (silently) ARGGHHHHH
when i was a kid, i wasn't allowed to just jump into an adult conversation and weigh in...nor would i have wanted to.
does anyone else find this really annoying? am i evil if i ask DH to tell them to keep quiet when we are talking about something totally unrelated to them?
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What bothers me the most is
What bothers me the most is when I'm having a conversation with my H and the skids jump in and actually try to put their input into the conversation like they know exactly what we're talking about.
oh, they do that too. that
oh, they do that too. that is really irriitating. usually, that involves my stepson telling me or DH that we are wrong about something that he knows nothing about.
Drives me INSANE! I usually
Drives me INSANE! I usually will say "hey, no one was talking to you"... and continue with my conversation.
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
Same here, or I say "hey, no
Same here, or I say "hey, no one asked you" or just tell them to buzz off, go do something else that's not up my butt.
That funny, I always tell
That funny, I always tell the kids "get outta my BUTT!!!". They laugh and walk away.
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
yeah, that's what i'd like
yeah, that's what i'd like to do -- but DH will be annoyed, because he thinks it is totally ok for them to get involved in our discussions.
does your DH support you telling them to buzz off? I think i might try it this weekend and see what kind of reaction i get...
Yes... but we started dating
Yes... but we started dating when our kids were REALLY young. And my daughter is the oldest of the 3 so she started doing it first. So, when I said it to SS for the first time, it was a rule that was already in place in the house.
I don't mind them being inquisitive on CERTAIN things. But seriously, they don't need to be involved in EVERY conversation.
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
i generally DO NOT talk
i generally DO NOT talk about stuff w/DH in front of them...... 1) i don't want all my personal shit going home to bm.. 2) i would want to slap their teeth down their throat if they did interject in my conversation
dh tries to talk about stuff (stupid shit -- he's on board w/no personal stuff going home to bm) in front of them-- i guess to make them think we're not super quite around them and we're all so happy & well blended --- i really don't know why... i just turn into a bitch and walk away... i am trying to better myself about that b/c that is no way to be -- but i'm just not a good faker..
That is EXACTLY why Creature
That is EXACTLY why Creature is so involved in my convos with dh. Wingnut interrogates her and she needs to have enough information to make mommy happy. Sometimes I get so pissed, I actually say "make sure you go home and tell your mother that Soverysad broke the coffee pot" or whatever else she is ever so interested in knowing.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
SS11 is the worst for
SS11 is the worst for that...has NO IDEA what the hell he is talking about either. I just say....UMMM was I talking to you? He gets a confused look and I then say....Didn't think so. DH will beat me to the punch sometimes with....The adults are talking here.
****I can do bad all by myself****
My SD used to do this too.
My SD used to do this too. But I was the one answering all her questions, thinking that she needed to know in order to expand her understanding....
Well I have realized that she knows most of the things she asks, lol. She just asks to get inbetween DH and I-- to derail your attention back on them.
So my DH and I know say " we are not talking to you right now." or " it is adult biz" finally at 10 she just walks away.
My SD does this too, she is
My SD does this too, she is the type that always has to have something to say... she has an argument for everything.
Me: "good morning"
SD: " its after 11, its not morning, but... good afternoon." She does this during conversions with DH also... interrupting just to correct some trivial detail. It's so frustrating. Usually I just let her know that if I wanted an editor, I would have a job as a journalist and tell her to knock it off.
See now I am the type that
See now I am the type that would snap back with a "isn't AFTERNOON... afternoon is THINK ABOUT IT... AFTER...NOON, so, like I said GOOD MORNING".
I can't stand a smart ass kid. I have a nephew like that. Urg...
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
me too. "A pessimist
me too. }:)
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
yeah, ss7 does this to the
yeah, ss7 does this to the point where i have trouble talking to him about anything, because he is turning into such a miserable know it all.
my friend suggested that i point out to him that people don't enjoy being corrected all the time. i'm going to try that this weekend.
Ough, we were never allowed
Ough, we were never allowed to chime in on adult conversations. I think DH should know when to put a stop to it. It just might be that they want to be involved. Do they stop what they are doing to listen? If they do I would just tell them to go back and this conversation does not concern them.
If you guys are eating together then that is different. But if they come running over to listen, I would put an end to that.
I was famous for doing
I was famous for doing this...i still ask a million questions. Kids need to know things. lol..
" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore
I keep it simple with
I keep it simple with SD:
Keep your nose on your face and outta my business.
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UGH, yes I deal with this as
UGH, yes I deal with this as well. DH & I will NOT discuss serious matters in front of them. But I may say something about my work, or my phone or my brother and SS8 jumps in the the conversation. And its annoying b/c one he shouldnt be listening when he's in the other rm and two its none of his business.
My brother (3 yrs older than me)and cousin (1 yr older than me)were super noisy kids. When we were younger, they'd want to sit at the table and listen to our parents talk and I could give two sh!ts about it! I'd want to play barbies or my little ponies and I'd get so annoyed that they didnt want to play but just sit there!!
The worst is when we are out and SS8 will jump in RANDOM ppl's conversations and I think its SO rude! He gets in trouble for that one too.
Yup, ss9 used to do this.
Yup, ss9 used to do this. One day I snapped and told him,"this is an a and b conversation...". Then he asked what that meant and I told him " I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to daddy. Mind your business.". Sure enough one day ss was talking to SO and I tried to join the conversation..,can you believe he told me " I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to daddy, mind your business". He was about 6 or 7. I was livid..,until I spoke to SO and told him how I felt. Now both of us are on the same page so if ss interrupts, either I give him " the look" or SO himself tells him that it's an adult convo.