Anyone else DREADING the summer holidays???
Hey everyone...
Ive just got to thinking about the god awful two month period people call the summer holidays - who the hell made it up that they should have two months off??! even parents that I know without any problems with their children hate it.
What got me started thinking about it was that the easter holidays are looming. DH is off today again up north to work until Thursday (normally its friday) so I get a few hours with him this week which is nice but then Friday we pick up SS9, the completely annoying, completely needy, acting like a 6 year old - in fact we are talking about going around to my friends house and getting him and her son - who is 5 together to play....sounds right about his age mentally.
So Im dreading the summer holidays - at least he goes back to school on Tuesday. Im hoping he will spend at least part of the weekend with DH's mother - she thinks he is the golden child and spoils him beyond anything or anyone. But the summer holidays??? 24/7 for a week every other week...I think Im going to lose the plot. He wont go out and make friends so he is indoors all day and the house revolves around him the entire time he is here - and DH says it revolves around our daughter. Total rubbish.
I just need to find a job - soon, and then I will be out of the house during the summer holidays....
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Skids go to BM for the
Skids go to BM for the summer.
The house becomes peaceful and silent. But DH and I spend this time reconnecting so it is a welcome time.
I DREAD the time AFTER summer holidays, when SS11 comes back a little jerk thinking he runs the house and SS9 wets the bed and is all spun up and hates himself.
wow steperg you are so
wow steperg you are so lucky....I got them banned for 2 weeks for physically fighting but then got the "Im never going to kick them out no matter what they do" ridiculous!!!
Thats great theothermom, I would love to have the whole summer holidays with DH. We get no time. its like 2 evenings and two days a month alone. It SUCKS!
well done mate!!! I think
well done mate!!! I think there will be many more fights until that happens here. For now they are separated so they dont come here together and the worse thing is, I think DH thinks that is temporary. Forget about it!!!! I dont want both of them under my roof ever again. Well, I dont want them ever coming here but at least its just ss9 once a month and ss12 once a month now....the weeks with ss9 make me want to run away though, I really have to bite my tongue to get through the week....really really dreading summer holidays
oh and ss12 is like that -
oh and ss12 is like that - talking forever!!! I actually have to call DH to get him out of his room - he is in there for an hour anyway!!! but ss12 keeps asking him questions and hes like well no-one else speak to them and I was like er hello? your here from when they are back from school talking to them and then an hour at bedtime, I cant get him to spend 5 minutes alone with hannah at bedtime, he says he cant have a conversation with her because she is 2 1/2. He is away every other week, he could be the bedtime person the week he is here and read her a story.
We just penned out the X
We just penned out the X number of weeks step-demon (sd14) will be with us this summer. Doubt she will be here for the total amount of time, but we have it all lined out. We even have back up options in case UberSkank tries to make any changes. I can't see how she can change anything. It's not like she has any plans or has the money to make plans for the summer. Besides....we're heading towards one year of unemployment with her. To top it off she got her shiny, little car repo'd two months ago and was evicted from her apartment about 45 days ago and had to move.
Step-demon has been with us this last week for spring break and she was with friends nearly the entire time. Still, I can't stand having that little jerk in our home. She is a slob, once again she left menstrual blood all over the toilet but this time I followed through on my threat. I went into her room, grab the first article of clothing I stepped on and used it to clean up the mess. She has been warned time and again.
I threw the shirt on her bed with a note telling her to wash it before wearing it because I used it to clean up the blood she left in the bathroom. Not a peep out of her and no messes since either.
Yeah.....I see me working some long ass hours this summer while she's with us. DH can spend all the time he wants with her.....I'll be otherwise occupied.
“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine
Shaman, I am so using that
Shaman, I am so using that trick for the menstrual blood with my SD. She does that shit every month! I find it on the toilet and on the floor! I get so sick of it and it grosses me and DH out, not to mention I don't want my BKs (2 and 4) stepping, sitting, or anything else in it. GROSS! I have told her and told her to make sure to clean up after herself, and she always "forgets" to do it. Maybe that trick of yours will work with her...grossing her out seems to do the trick with other things, like not using my eye makeup because it will make her eyes get infected. Thanks for the idea and I hope you make it through the dreaded summer vacation.
Yeah....it was the thanks I
Yeah....it was the thanks I got for going directly to her so she wouldn't be embarrassed in front of her father. Then I got sick of her ignoring me so I just would march over to DH and tell him to deal with it.
And you're right. It's disgusting to find something like that, and she would purposely smear it on the seat, sides of the bowl, on the towels, since and drawers. It made me ill.
If step-demon were a reasonably clean child, I wouldn't mind her borrowing my things or sharing makeup (not eye makeup). Unfortunately she can go weeks without brushing her teeth, days without showering and don't get me started on her dirty clothes. She knows my things are off limits now. She also knows that I can tell when someone's been messing with my things.
“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine
Me, Me, Me!!! This will be
Me, Me, Me!!! This will be the first year that SD doesn't spend the summer with BM since we live so far away and she is old enough to say she doesn't want to go. I am BUMMED! I am hoping something will happen and SD will change her mind, but it's not likely. I have always looked forward to summer break as a time for DH and I to get some time to ourselves and relax and not have to worry about SD's weekly (sometimes daily) drama. Not this year! I dread 3 and 4 day weekends, now I have to deal with her 24/7 for 10 weeks! God give me strength! Hopefully I can find something for her to do to keep her busy for the summer, but that's difficult since all she cares to do is sit in her room and play games and watch tv. We have a few trips planned for the summer, but I'm sure all she will be able to do is complain the whole time just like she does anytime we go anywhere. It seems like she can't stand to do anything outside of the house and God forbid she not be the center of attention. Sorry, don't mean to hijack the post. Just REALLY agree with the dreading the summer break issue.
I'll be odd man out.... I
I'll be odd man out.... I can't wait for my SDs to get to come and stay for more than 4 or 5 days at a time. They just went home tonight after being here 5 days and they hated going back and we hated taking them back. I'm dreading the next 2 weeks without them.....
That is awesome that you
That is awesome that you feel that way! I wish I felt like that, I really, really do. We don't do the shuffling back and forth with SD, she lives with us full-time, and sometimes I just feel like I need a friggin' break. But I do wish I could look forward to summer vacation and spending all kinds of time with ALL of my kids like many of my friends do, but I just dread it. Makes me sad.
There is no where to take
There is no where to take them here....its so baron. and we are planning on painting the house this summer so I guess we will be busy with that although I wont be quite as involved as our daughter is too young to leave unaccompanied!!! There is no where to send them either!! although MIL will surely have SS9 if asked....will just have to ask her all summer haha.
good trick with the period blood, I dont remember getting it everywhere - how the hell do they manage it?? disgusting!!! I get urine all over the toilet seats, its majorly disgusting aswell. It annoys me that I have to clean the seat before I sit on it!!
And I wish I looked forward to it too but too much shit under the bridge and all that...
my sd13 hasn't started yet,
my sd13 hasn't started yet, but if she pulls some nasty ass gross tactics like you guys have described ---- i just might grab her by the hair and wipe it up with her face..... wtf?? it's embarrassing, why would you want to make it obvious??
i never look forward to spring/summer/winter holidays.... i never know when or how much time we're gonna get stuck with skids.... with sd13 speaking of her & ss10 spending 24/7 with dh & me, i am at wits end..
Im feeling your pain
Im feeling your pain starfish! I was talking to DH earlier because we have been invited (along with ss9) to go to my friends house Friday evening and spend the night and do an easter thing for the kids. So he says, well Im not sure thats going to work because Im picking SS9 up on Friday and I said my life doesnt revolve around him, either he wants to come or he stays at your mums. And he is saying that thursday when he comes back, instead of coming straight home and avoiding the hours staying at his parents (because he drops his earnings with his dad who transfers it immediately) he wants to go there and I was like no, we will have to be there HOURS. I said we have been there 2 weekends in the last month, Ive spend enough time with them and I said that she wanted ss9 for easter so he could just take him there and do the money thing at the weekend. and he was saying, I do want to spend time with him, its been ages since I saw him (a month thank god! not really long though...to short a time in my opinion). I was like you go to your mums with him then. Im not going end of. and I dont want him in my house really but I have to so tough tits for me.