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Submitted by mylife7 on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 1:59am

When I first tried to reach out to other SMs online I was horrified with what I found. The sites were overrun by bitter BMs who had nothing kind to say about Bd or Sms. Wicked jealousy and lack of responsibility to the situation they had a part in from what I read. This is the first site I have encountered that is real...like really real. I know it's silly, but I felt joy as I read the raw words complete with cursing instead of the "golly gee" and "gawldarn" I had come accrossed before, well unless the BM was talking about a SM. Then we are always the bitch. I always find there is something to be said about a solid F-bomb in a moment of release. I read through posts last night and almost cried several times. It was like someone else typed the words I have felt for almost four years, and it happened over and over in the blogs. This subject, that issue, resentment, anger, all of it.

I still feel a bit leary. What happens now? I spill my guts? Someone understands? Whoa! What's THAT like?

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Submitted by redheaded_stepmom on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 2:37am

I was in the same boat. It is so nice to find a place to vent and get feedback from people that are honest and going through the same thing. Welcome to the site, I am brand new, too. You and I seem to have a lot in common with our experience. My DH and I have been married for 6 years and it has been quite the struggle at times thanks to SD14 and BM. I hope you and I can give each other a shoulder to cry on and some good advice.

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Submitted by usade on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 3:05am

Welcome, mylife7! I'm also relatively new to this site, and to this situation, but I had the great luck (I go as far as to say the BLESSING) of finding this site right away when I started to hunt for help and answers. It's given me a place to vent about my struggles and insecurities, find words of wisdom and comfort, get e-slapped to look at reality and see the true big picture! Thanks to all posters before me, who've shared their experiences, I feel in a better to help myself, and found tips on seeking professional help for my whole family. So, hugs for you, and for all the STalkers!

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Submitted by Most Evil on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 6:10am

Welcome newbies!! Come on in, the water is fine! Smile
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Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 6:21am

Welcome!! Smile

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 10:14am

Welcome. Post as needed. Read often. It helps us know that we are not the evil SM's our stepkids and DH's make us out to be. That we really have good intentions, we are just not willing to walked over. Good luck. Look forward to reading about your situation.

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Submitted by Sia on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 12:30pm

Welcome!!!! The majority of us here are level headed, kind people. ALL of us started where you are....so post away, we will understand!

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Submitted by Amazed on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 12:32pm

had to chuckle at "the majority" lol probably not a good example of the site for her to read my bm rant...eeek!

sorry new girl! We really are nice,sm loving people...scouts honor Smile

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..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

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