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Submitted by Gana on Sat, 02/20/2010 - 12:44pm

Okay. Here it goes. My boyfriend and I were at his son's basketball game last night and so was his whole family, sister and her kids and brother and his kids and his parents. My bf has custody of his kids. 14 and 16, we have been together for 3 1/2 years and everytime we go to a game she shows up and acts like his family is still her family, hugging them, calling them mom and dad and referring to herself as Aunt so and so. My question is, why does she do this? Her family hates him and wouldn't even think twice about talking to him or even giving him a hug hello. I was really upset last night when we got home she makes a fool of herself but I don't know why she does it. Again, he has custody of the kids so that should tell you a little. How should I act when she does this? I think she does it to act like she still part of the family put she pull him through so much that I can't understand it. Please help?

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sleepingwiththeenemy's picture

Submitted by sleepingwiththeenemy on Sat, 02/20/2010 - 12:56pm

You should b urself n not get upset bc she is their 2 support the kids n u r there w/ur bf n da fam. U know ur place w/him therefore u just smile n chat. As long as she dont cross da line u good. As far as da family, they most likely continue 2 deal with her n peace 4 da kids sake n u 2 should do da same. My sons grandmother is just like my mother, even though me n their father has moved on w/our lives, she is still da same w/me n i love her to death. If its not broke, dont fix it!

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Submitted by stronggirl on Sat, 02/20/2010 - 1:07pm

I would smile...she is only doing this to get to YOU...and if it does not affect you it will make her more mad...and again she is making a fool of herself. And i bet it does hurt..but you know how the family really feels...so that is really funny...the more she does it the more she makes an ass of herself...which in my book is great!

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Submitted by Gana on Sat, 02/20/2010 - 7:10pm

Thank you so much for responding to me..sometimes I get upset and I should as you said just smile and let it go. Thanks again. I thought I was losing my mind. Great advice.

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Submitted by StepChicka on Sat, 02/20/2010 - 9:13pm

Whether she's doing this to get to you, playing nice in front the kids, or she really has no hard feelings towards the x-family...it's not a big concern. You are with her X now and have her kids so you in sense have completely replaced her. The last feeling you should have is feel threatened and beneath someone who's obviously already lost so much.